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mommyoftwo89 · Oct 1, 2009, 11:03 PM

I'm 8 months pregnant nw and me my boyfriend have a 18 month old daughter. We are "in love". He works bt I stay home and take care of our daughter. Since I am pregnant, I can't do a lot of things that I am used to doing. He doesn't take me out.. and I don't beg him to. So I take it upon myself to go out once or twice a week and get out the house. I might go to the mall, movies, or out to eat bt it'll be with my best friend. He always has a problem with me going out.. bt he can go to Atlantic city or playing 360 with his friends, instead of being with his family or helping me take care of our daughter. Even when I wasn't pregnant, he had a problem with me leaving the house. Y?

amicon · Oct 1, 2009, 11:09 PM

This sounds like he s trying to control you big time.
Does he also tell you what to wear and who you can see and speak to?
Do you have friends and family that you can speak to ?

mommyoftwo89 · Oct 1, 2009, 11:18 PM

Sometimes he tries to tell me what to wear. Bt I don't listen. He really doesn't want me to have male friends. My family... he has a problem with my brothers and my cousins. Nt so much females bt the males he has problems with me talking to them on the phone and going to see them. I literally have one best friend. Lol. Which is sad because I'm onli 20. I really don't have a life anymore because of him.

amicon · Oct 1, 2009, 11:29 PM

In my book that's emotional abuse.
Any person who tries to control another has serious problems.
I realise you re in a tough situation with a young child and another one on the way but have you ever considered leaving him?

mommyoftwo89 · Oct 1, 2009, 11:39 PM

Honestly.. yes. I'm just afraid of taking care of two kids on my own. Althou my grandmother says she'll help bt she's older n has her own problems to deal with. So I kind of feel like I need him in a way. There's still a lot of things I want to do with my life.. I just feel like I cnt do it alone with two kids.

friend4u178 · Oct 1, 2009, 11:51 PM

You have had your kids so now it's your responsibility to bring them up , see this is why we often say don't have kids so early in your life before you've had the chance to live it.

Having said that staying with someone because your scared to bring them up by yourself is NOT a healthy Relationship and it will fall over eventually if that's the only reason your staying together.

Communicate with him and let him know how you feel , tell him you need to have a life as well and if he won't let you have one then you may have to think of other options. There's no way you should have to suffer because he has some insecurities.

I hope he gets the hint and you can both sort it out TOGETHER.

Good Luck!