[none12345]

K but i don't get it when he says that he is over her and yet does that stuff, Am i just imagining it or am i believing that he can have someone better then me?

Stop overthinking stuff. It doesn't matter anymore.

[kctiger]

You are way too hung up on what your ex is doing, thinking and saying. Free yourself from these games by leaving him alone. Forget if he can have someone better than you, worry about fixing your own issues and finding someone better than him. He is your ex. Both of you owe each other nothing. You are both NOW free to go pursue a life that fits your two as individuals.

[Jordan Christin]

Thanks I know that but its like he changes his mind about me, first he likes me and the hates me.

[summer7]

Seems like he likes you when he wants to kiss and "stuff". Try your hardest to stay away. You deserve better. Here, I found a quote for you. Hope it helps a little!

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Anonymous

[jmjoseph]

He wants to "kiss and stuff", but treats you bad in public? Can you handle dropping him ? Are you willing to do that? Because that's exactly what you need to do. If he can't treat you with respect when you're around other people, he's not worthy of even touching you.

Never forget that. Don't allow ANYONE to use you.

I wish you luck and happiness.

[Wondergirl]

Thanks i know that but its like he changes his mind about me, first he likes me and the hates me.

Then he's a wishy-washy so-and-so. He says what he knows you want to hear in order to keep you around and play mind games with you, then he tells you the truth.

[Jordan Christin]

Thanks guys so much I will do that!!

[talaniman]

He is your ex, keep it that way, and keep your distance.

[Jordan Christin]

Anyway, it been a while since I have been with my ex boyfriend. I still really miss him and I have tried to have other relationships and they haven't been really long, but what I don't get is why I can't get over him even though I am not dating him. And why none of my other relationships haven't last so long. Help!

[Fugue]

One of the problems is that you're using other relationships to try and drive the first one out of your head.

Doesn't work very well, does it?

I can't tell you what this guy could give you that you're not getting now; I'm not you. You can figure it out for yourself, though, if you put some effort into it.

Whenever I've had a hard time getting over a breakup, I try and analyze my own feelings first. What's hardest for you about not being with this guy? Is it having to see mutual friends? Is it all the fantasies you had about being together forever that aren't going to come true anymore? Is it a sense of safety or security, or are you feeling a lack of comfort and love? Is it maybe all those things?

When you have a void in your life, for whatever reason, it's very romantic-seeming to think that there's someone out there who can fill in all the holes that the void created. It's also wrong. When you're missing something in your life, the very best thing you can do is identify it and then fill those holes in yourself. Again, this is just what I've done, but when I remind myself of how much I enjoy my own company - that I really can be happy without having a relationship - then I'm perfectly positioned to find someone who isn't going to "complete" me (since I'm already quite complete, thank you!), but someone who complements me.

So you want my advice? Stop trying to start relationships for the sake of having a relationship with someone. You won't be happy, and it won't be fair to the people you're dating since you're never going to find what you want when all you're really looking for is a substitute. Learn to be happy on your own, and the rest will just fall into place. I promise.

[paxe]

Like Fugue said, you are doing everything wrong. You are using rebound relationship to get over your ex, when what you actually need is to take care of yourself and heal. Start going to the gym, join an activity, volunteer... Take an active role in healing, not just passive.

[Jordan Christin]

Its just that my ex was really good I and really liked him and our relationship that we had for about 10 months he decided to break up with me cause he thinks that he is to good for me, never spends enough time with me, says he won't have time to know(which he kind of doesnt), he never really talks to me when I try to talk to him, I know his friends hate me.

[paxe]

That`s also something you are doing wrong. You are keeping contact with him. Cut the source of the pain, and the pain will go away. I had a relationship for 3 years, it is only a waste of time to think about the past. You will only be sad and never look toward the future. Let the past be, and start a new life WITHOUT him.

[amicon]

Is this the same guy as before? If so time to let it GO.
Stop dating for a while and be happy being who you are.

[kmj0317]

I am somewhat in the same situation but I haven't been in a relationship since I have broken up with my ex. Having these different relationships is not good because you are only dating them so you could get over your ex but you want because they aren't him. You need to give yourself time to heal and find the right person for you instead of rushing into another relationship.

[Jordan Christin]

So the other day I went to my ex's house to hang out cause were still very good friends. We played some video game first, then we wanted to go up a play the wii but it wouldn't work, so we decided to poke each and tickle each other, but soon it ended up at kissing. Now I am so confused and I don't know what to do! Were not even dating and I have no idea what is going on!! Help!! I need advise really badly!

[amicon]

If this is the same guy as in your other threads,reread the advice you've been given previously.

[Jordan Christin]

Yea but its been forever since we have really talked to each other and we have became great friends, and when I went over it was like we were back to dating all over and when we were kissing he kept holding me close to him

[amicon]

You haven't talked in ages but you have become great friends? How, if there's been no conversation?
My take on this is still that you're allowing this guy to mess with your head and you should stay well away from him and concentrate on your own life.

[I wish]

If you're only friends with him in hopes of rekindling your relationship, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment. I'm sure he's happy with the friends with benefits arranagement.

So if you're not on the same page, you're in for another heartbreak.