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lonelyangel_ky · Sep 26, 2009, 06:58 PM

My husband and I have recently taken in his 31 daughter and her 2 children, when in which s autistic. We are middle aged and use to be by ourselves, I have begun to just dispise his daughter, am I being silly?

twinkiedooter · Sep 26, 2009, 07:09 PM

If she is in need of a place to stay, then yes, you are being silly. You need to remember that she would probably be homeless with her 2 kids without you and your husband being kind enough to let them live with you. There are way too many homeless families out there. Do you want to add one more family to this awful misery? You need to lighten up a little and look at the big picture. Her circumstances should change soon and she will move out.

lonelyangel_ky · Sep 27, 2009, 06:18 AM

Thanks, I've tried to look at the big picture. This is costing me my marriage, she has stolen money, medications, lied just since she has been here. Honestly I'm beginning to feel the girls would be better off with there dad. At least he works and doesn't do drugs.

Thanks for your response!

twinkiedooter · Sep 27, 2009, 02:24 PM

Oh, I'm sorry about this. You didn't say that she was a thief and helped herself to anything that was not nailed down. Well, then in that case I side with you. If she can't appreciate having a roof over her head and must take all your things then show her the door. If she keeps lying about stealing, then you definitely have been taken for a ride. I hope you can somehow convince your husband that this was a good idea, but not anymore and that her being in your household is wrecking you and your husband's relationship. The father should hopefully take them in. You are right. The kids need to be around someone who is a good role model, not some druggie.

I wish you had posted that info in your original post. I hope you do come back and read this.

lonelyangel_ky · Sep 27, 2009, 03:44 PM

Sorry, new to all this... I'll get the hang of it soon... Thanks bunches!

twinkiedooter · Sep 27, 2009, 04:40 PM

You are most welcome here, lonleyangel. If you have any other questions for us remember, we are always here. We are all volunteers and we essentially pool our collective knowledge of the law, the world, and relationships (as well as how to fix stuff).

FlutterBye · Sep 27, 2009, 05:22 PM

I do feel your pain. Life is never as "cut and dry" and there is always more behind the story. I am also new to this. I have been warned about reading some of these posts. Lots of people pretend to know lots of things. Some people just want to cause trouble!

Anyway, you are kind to take them in and you are NOT wrong to feel the way you do.

FlutterBye · Sep 27, 2009, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by twinkiedooter

You are most welcome here, lonleyangel. If you have any other questions for us remember, we are always here. We are all volunteers and we essentially pool our collective knowledge of the law, the world, and relationships (as well as how to fix stuff).

Lonleyangel... as a new member like you, you might want to check-out all the rules, regulations and so-forth. I did! Lots of people try to fool you saying they are "volunteers" etc. The truth is EVERYONE on here is just an ordinary person like you or I. If you see a person with "thousands of posts" that only means that that person is ALWAYS on this site posting! Please be wary of the information you receive. You will be able to tell if some is sincere. Take care!