[makapuu]

I wish someone had asked me this 10 years ago. Looking back at the guys I dated and wanted to marry, I'm glad it never happened. I wasn't really in love with them, I just wanted to get married. I wanted to marry my current boyfriend when we first started dating, but the more secure I became in my relationship, the less I pressured him. And it helped our relationship. I don't love him any less because he doesn't want to marry me. I have more time to be in love with him because I'm not spending all my time pestering him to marry me.

Good luck to all the women that want their boyfriends to marry them.

[redhed35]

Why did I marry?

I married to get out of my mothers house..

As simple and as horrible as that.

The marriage ended,no real surprise there.

Im not above admitting my wrong doing in the relationship,and know now what I did was a terrible thing to do.

14 years later,I have learned my lessons well,I would marry again,being older and wiser,I would only marry for love.

Money and luck come and go,if love is your constant I believe a couple can work together,and overcome the hard times,and enjoy the good times.

Teamwork!

[Romefalls19]

Because I am in love with the woman I am engaged too

[paxe]

My ex wanted me to marry her because of social pressure. She's actually coming from a western country and I'm coming from a muslim one, but she kept pressuring ME about marriage. In her family, she was "next" to get married after her cousins and she was beginning to get distressed about it. At some point I would have cracked under the pressure.
I'm actually happy not to get married when I was not prepared and so young (20) at the time and to finish my relationship with her.
Marry for love, marry when you are ready and do not pressure somebody else for marriage.

[liz28]

If you have to put pressure on someone to marry you then you shouldn't get married. I recently got married and I have no regrets. Marriage only works if the two people want it to work. A lot of people today get married for all the wrong reasons and I have a few friends who are divorce because of this. Above anything you have to friends with your mate and not just friends best friends.

[I wish]

This thread seems more appropriate in the marriage section so I moved it.

Both people involved have to want a marriage, it can't be forced. The are many factors to consider before a couple takes the next step into a marriage. I believe that emotional stability and financial stability are two important factors. Lingering doubts need to be overcome and not set aside. Issues need to be worked out together as a couple. A good sign on whether the marriage can succeed is when you work out all your doubts and concerns TOGETHER before considering marriage.

[Just Dahlia]

I married when I was 21, because that was "the thing to do" the way I was raised.
Get married
Start a family
I knew I wasn't in love with the man, in my imature and insecure mind, I told myself that I could deal with it for the rest of my life as long as I wasn't left alone.
10 years and one beautiful son later, I couldn't 'deal' with it anymore.

[Cat1864]

There was really only one factor that counted when I decided to marry my husband-Love.