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uh-lee-uh · Sep 20, 2009, 08:33 PM

Me & this guy have been dating for about a year & 3 months. During about our fourth month of being together he told me that there was a problem and that he may be the father of some girls baby he had been with. He claims he did not cheat on me but I didn't believe him because the girl was 3 months far along in her pregnancy. We began dating on May 27 of last year but met on the 5th. So then he told me that he was with her while we weren't going out but just 'talking'. So I broke it off with him when I found out that piece of information. I was in love with him I can't deny it. I began to have a little hope in which there was a possibility that he could not be the father. So we decided to get back together. The child was born in March of this year. He told me that he will be getting a DNA test done to prove that the baby was not his. It took almost 5 months for him to get the paternity test & it was more than a month ago that he told me that he took it. He never brought up this predicament in conversation so I would always be the one to ask him about it. I tried, through out our relationship not to bring it up but it was something that needed to be resolved so I asked him again recently if he had gotten the results & told me he didn't. Plus he is in Ohio with his brothers but he lives in Florida. He claimed that the results will be sent to his parents & they will inform him about the DNA test once it comes in. I don't know what to do. I can't be with him if the child is his. I know that he in fact cheated on me but is not man enough to tell me himself. I'm confused about this situation so I broke up with him again. I told him it's too much for me & I don't want to suffer for his irresponsible actions. So what do I do?

redhed35 · Sep 21, 2009, 01:52 AM

I think you did the right thing.

Even if he is not the father of ths child he has cheated and lied and kept you in the dark,I would say you dodged a bullet there.

Imagine if you decided to stay with him,as you said yourself he was not man enough to be honest.

How a man looks after his children and deals with his problems is very telling on the type of relationship you can expect.

Stay away,no contact.