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desyusa · Sep 19, 2009, 12:54 AM

My toddler is 13 months old and somethimes during the night he screams like crazy with no reason(at least for me).What should I do leave him skream or take him to my bed(he stops when I take him)?

artlady · Sep 19, 2009, 01:16 AM

You need to teach him how to self soothe .

Coo to him shhsing him, gently and lay him down,pat his back,keep the lights low,don't get into a conversation.

Just shhh ,lay him back down and walk away.You can still say from your room its OK your OK.

Unless he is having a severe nightmare there is no reason to bring him in your bed,because unless you are a parent who wants that forever,you have to nip it in the bud.

Give him a snuggly toy and walk away.

If he is going ballistic than you may have to spend more time but try not to pick him up.

Keep him in his bed.

If you must get him up ,knowing he will not settle down,hold him in his room.

The minute he leaves his room,he feels safer and that's good but the habit is so hard to break.

If you keep doing the comfort in his own room and he can hear you talk to him from your room,once he is calm and say your OK he will eventually know you are still there and have a sense of security.

mrs_Dubiel · Sep 20, 2009, 02:31 PM

We always went in to calm ours down and then put him back in bed and then let him cry it out. It's hard to do, but we didn't want him to get used to coming to our bed!

Fr_Chuck · Sep 20, 2009, 03:14 PM

Yes if there is no problem, ( and there is not if he will stop when he goes to your bed) you try to comfort him as much as possible but leave him in his bed

jenniepepsi · Sep 20, 2009, 06:20 PM

If those options that the others gave you don't work, I have coslept with my daughter from 6months to now at almost 6 years (in 2 weeks)

There is nothing wrong with the self soothing or CIO with your children. But there is also nothing wrong with cosleeping and sometimes it can work wonders for familys.

Good luck hon. Whatever you decide make sure its YOUR decision.

jmjoseph · Sep 20, 2009, 06:37 PM

We bought a device that is especially for infants, that has an aquarium-like sound and movements that worked wonders on our boys. It's very tough to let children "cry-it-out", but it sometimes is the only way to get them in their own bed.

Baby beds are for babies, adult beds are for making more babies. Don't interrupt the cycle unless there's a thunderstorm. Good luck to you.