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cheriseh321 · Sep 19, 2009, 06:06 PM

I found out that my father was adopted and had a name change at the age of 2
And I was able to find out what his biological name is and the hospital he was born at
But unfortunately the hosp. he was born at is now a nursing home and he doesn't have a birth certificate. I really need to find out who my biological birth parents are but it is so hard to even get close without all these websites abusing your creditcard information with no leads afterwards. All I know is my grand fathers name and that is only because my father was originally born a junior. What kind of help is available for me or does anybody know how I can find my biological granparents.

none12345 · Sep 19, 2009, 07:46 PM

There are a lot of TV shows hosts that help but I take it you don't want to go on them. Lol neither would I. So you're parents aren't your birth parents? If you ask them would they know? Or you might need to hire a private investigator.

Synnen · Sep 20, 2009, 09:05 AM

Do you need to find your birth PARENTS? Or birth GRANDPRAENTS?

If your father does not want to be involved in a search, your odds are very low if you're looking for your birth GRANDPARENTS--especially if you're looking for any reason but medical information.

You can register at reunion websites, and hope for contact, or you can hire a private detective--you're not going to have a whole lot of other options.

Please remember that these are real people with real lives--and YOU might ruin those lives by interfering in them. They may not WANT contact at ALL. What year was your dad placed for adoption? If it was pre-1970, it's a good bet that the birthparents had a very good reason for choosing adoption--and that there's a good chance that no one in their lives KNOWS about the child. You could cause divorce, disinheritance, and lord knows what other problems in their lives for YOUR curiosity.

Basically--I support adoptees looking for birthparents if they really feel that disconnect and need to know basic information about their birthparents. But when it comes to kids and grandkids of the adoptee jumping in out of curiosity, then I think there should be a line drawn. If you NEEDED the information for medical purposes, that would be different. I fail to understand, though, why the grandparents you had growing up were not sufficient for you.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 20, 2009, 09:27 AM

First to him ( I know to me) my adoptive parents are the only real parents I have, anyone looking for what I call the sperm donors would be the waste of good air.

Next the hosptial, at least in the US does not have the birth certificates, the state records office has all of the birth records.

But your grandparents are the ones that were there when you were growig up