[SammyJo42109]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years. When we first got together, that's all we did was have sex, I mean it didn't matter to us where we were! That is how much in love we were! Then I got pregnant! Ever since then he says he's not in the mood and just don't feel like it! My daughter is 5months old now and he still doesn't want to have sex that much! I'm lucky to get it once a month now! What can I do it get him in the mood or is there something going on?

[artlady]

What does he say to you about it?
Is he tired ,is he stressed?
Is your relationship good in all other ways?

[redhed35]

Babies are hard work,and it's a big responsibility...

Talk to him,sometimes it does not matter how you sex it up,its not going to happen,you need to talk and get back in touch with him on an emotional level.

[talaniman]

The lust has worn off, and other areas of the relationship have to be developed.

[Cat1864]

What is your relationship like outside the bed?

Fequency and location of sex does not indicate Love. Love is more than quantity of intercourse. It is easy to keep Lust going strong until reality provides a wake-up call.

Love is shown in helping your mate with the day-to-day things like taking care of the child. Helping with housework. Providing a home.

Lust is quantity over quality. Both Love and Lust are parts of a relationship, but so is Communication.

Talk with him. Not just about sex but all the other things that committed couples and parents should discuss.

[jmjoseph]

It could several things.

How is his health?
How is your relationship?
Does he work long hours?
Does he masturbate a lot?
Look at porn?
Does he take prescription drugs?
Street drugs?
Do you suspect him of cheating?
Is he depressed?
Angry?

It could have been the fact that you've just given birth. Some guys look at women differently after they have babies. I never have understood that myself. I was in the delivery room for both of my sons birth, and saw the whole thing. I cut their cords, and it hasn't affected my outlook on sex, or my attraction to my wife.
Is he involved in the care of your daughter? Sometimes, men feel left out when in comes to childcare.

I think you should talk to him about it, first and foremost.

You two should go out on a date. Get the romance back.

New parents know all too well how having a child changes our way of life, our thinking, our priorities.

But you should have a healthy, happy, household for that child to grow up in.

Good luck to you and your family.

[SammyJo42109]

Our relationship is great besides in the bed! I feel like he is cheating some times! He doesn't look at porn or anything like that! I just don't understand

[talaniman]

You don't understand that changes, and adjustments, must be made in a relationship all the time??

What you thought you would be like wild rabbits forever??

[Cat1864]

It all comes back to COMMUNICATION. Talk with him.

Where does the baby sleep? Some people get nervous about babies waking up or "hearing".

But you won't know until you have a conversation WITH him about your concerns.

Conversations with yourself will only lead to more questions, no answers, and jumping to conclusions. While jumping to conclusions exercises your mind, it also exercises your insecurities and fears.

[I wish]

Our relationship is great besides in the bed!

That sounds contradicting to me. If your relationsihp was so great, then you shouldn't have a problem talking things out with him and trying to figure it out together.

[winding200]

Our relationship is great besides in the bed! I feel like he is cheating some times! He doesnt look at porn or anything like that! I just dont understand

To make better understanding, let me ask you some questions. Is he avoiding you in any forms of physical contact? Is he still cuddling? How old is he? Your relationship is only for 2 years old even though you have a baby, and he should be in exploring mode, not in this way.