[isolated2211]

I've been dating this guy for about 5 months now. And things are really great from communication to bed. We always tell if there's something wrong, how our days went and that every couple's conversation normally would have. It's as if he's the one for me.. but here's the glitch we haven't said the 3 big words. Though we know what we are feeling right now has grown into something big. And what suck even more is the fact that his x-gf still coming back to him to "chill"and . Where I know it's just her way to get him back and she, I'm very sure, knows that he have moved on and found somebody new. Her tricks to make him see her and have a talk is by using her parents name, saying that her parents doesn't know about the break up and she doesn't have the effing guts to tell them.. and we girls do know guys would fall for that all the time. ALL THE TIME. No matter they have been told it's a set up they would still be optimistic about it. This drama, is really killing me and making me all depressed almost every time I think about him and her. Howeever.. he would tell me in details what he and her talk about and all that just so that I won't be worried. Though every time he asked me if I'm okay with the whole thing and I would say it doesn't really matter when really, I'm torned inside. (btw.. they have split up for about 6/7 months now.. and no.. I'm not the reason behind the break-up. She was the one who wants it.. )

Okay, the real deal here is this.. should I tell him about this matter? What's the real deal between them 2? How he is really feeling about the reltionship we have? I don't know.. it's really bothering me.. and believe me, I am the one who would ussually help out my friends who have this sort of problem, never thought I'd be IT..

After so many relationship I've been on, I've never felt insecure, worried and really care like a madcow over a loveydovey thing like this before and I'm 20. So it's a really new feeling I'm having. Though we've been dating for only 5 months... it felt like more. And am really scared to loose him.

Am I only being paranoid? Or is it normal to feel this way?

help me.

[kctiger]

If things are as great as you say they are and you two both have great communication then I don't understand why you don't tell him about your feelings in regards to his ex. You don't have to do it in an immature way, but just explain it to him. Talk about what's bothering you. This is how your relationship can further develop, by being open and honest.

[redhed35]

Kc is right,you need to talk...

But before you do,are you sure he feels the same way?

Reverse the situation.. your ex is still in your life but you are head over heels in love with this guy,do you give your ex the time of day? Or do you tell them to sort it out,there not your problem any more..

I'm not saying he does not feel the same way,but there is a line where your ex is in the past,or your ex is still in your life.

She may be a hanger-onto-er.. but is he?

[BMI]

Great advice above.

I'm in a bit of a snit today so don't mind too much what I say:)

That being said, you scoff at her and her not having the effing guts to tell her parents but at the same time you don't have the guts to ask him about it? OR say those three words you feel are so applicable in your situation?

Again, sorry.

With that being said, no matter how ridiculous her reason is for having to stay in contact with him I'm sure his reasons for actually buying it are just as silly. He likes the attention, two girls over him in the same year converging into a nice little "problem" for his ego. C'mon now!