[crisluvsu731]

Is it normal for thinking about having sex with someone else when sleeping with your partner? (it helps get me off : ( )

[spitvenom]

You know I tried that once and it totally backfired on me. It made me not get off and wish I was with that other person. So I guess it depends on your mentality. Or maybe I just really wasn't into that girl I don't know.

[crisluvsu731]

So it doesn't make me a bad person? I'm only human

[spitvenom]

No you are not a bad person. I am not 100% sure but I would bet that my wife has had sex with Chase Utley from phillies face on my body!

[Catsmine]

Occasionally it's no problem. Do you need to do this every time?

[crisluvsu731]

No, not all the time. I do a few times.

[Catsmine]

No, not all the time. I do a few times.

Then it's called fantasy. Everybody uses fantasy, one way or another.

[j_ely823]

Are these thoughts induced by some issues in the relationship do you think? And when you say it helps get you off, do u mean when you masturbate? Or does it help you go to sleep? Do you have these thoughts after sex? During sex?
You need to evaluate your sexual relationship? Is everything okay? Do you feel like there is something lacking? I believe if your truly satisfied and happy with her than these thoughts are just like passing flies. However if it bothers you too much,You can control them. Otherwise spice it up!

[Ren6]

Then it's called fantasy. Everybody uses fantasy, one way or another.

I had to spread the rep, but yep... it sounds normal to me, too!

[Cat1864]

It is fairly common. Especially if the "fantasy" is about a character or celebrity. If the "fantasy" is about someone you know or happens a lot, then you may want to think about why that person is popping into your mind at that time.

Just be careful not to call your partner by the wrong name.

[crisluvsu731]

Haha, I won't make that mistake. But the problem is that the guy I think about satified me a lot more than my boyfriend and he was bigger, if you know what I mean.

[j_ely823]

Oh, you're a girl!. my bad if anything was specified to male attritbutes

[j_ely823]

Well, I've had that occur once or twice to me. When you say he satisfied you more, do you mean just through intercourse, or does it encompass all sexual experiences with this other young man?

[Cat1864]

Cris, if satisfaction is the problem, you might try using some different techniques with this gentleman than the other one.

As my daddy once told me, "It isn't how long the rope or how deep the well, but how you dangle the bucket."

[simoneaugie]

A friend of mine told me her solution to the problem. She called it "praying." Instead of using any name, at all, just say "oh God!"

[Synnen]

If you're not as satisfied, then your problem is not his size, it's your lack of communication.

If you don't talk to him and TELL him how to better please you, then you DESERVE to be less satisfied.