[mikouse]

I was going to ask can my girlfrend that's almost 7 months pregnant just pack her stuff and move to pennslvania she taking my kid away from me pretty much

[mikouse]

What question

[stevetcg]

Its not your kid until it is born and paternity is proven. So yes, she can just pack up and move.

Sorry.

Edited to add: that is not to say that she cannot be compelled to move back by the court after paternity has been established, providing she does not establish residency in her new location to satisfy jurisdiction.

[mikouse]

I've been in a relationship over a year now my girl is pregnant we will be having a boy in 2 months, so she moved out of state back to her parents. I never really treated her bad but she says I talked down and belittled her. I have never been in a situation like this. I do miss her, and not to be there for my baby is just killing me. Thinking about it, I don't know if I should follow them, and see what happens or would it be the right thing to do, or try to talk to her. I just don't know, she is very different then the girls I have had in the past. She says she will do it on her own with out me, and doesn't want to work things out, I guess I just don't know what to do at this point

[britEl]

How old are you and your ex (?) girlfriend? I would try talking to her before taking drastic measures. You are the father of this child so you do have the right to be in your child's life, but you need to talk to your ex(?) and maybe even discuss this further with her parents, and yours if you haven't already. This is a big deal and you should be trying to talk to the people you want answers from.

[mikouse]

I just turned 30 and she turned 26 that is my plan also to see what they have to say

[amicon]

Good luck and hope you find a solution that works for you all.

[redhed35]

My advice,follow her,get down on your knees and beg forgiveness...

Tell her you love her,and you'll do what it takes to make things better..

Her hormones are all over the place,she needs support and kindness..

Stand up to the plate now and go take care of things..

[Gemini54]

This is your child, you should be fighting for him. Your GF says that she wants to do it on her own, but that's because she doesn't know what is involved.

Get in contact with her, talk to her and offer her your love and support. This is your child, you have an opportunity to get it right and to be involved in his growth and development.

Have an honest think about what you were like in your relationship with her, and if she's right, that you did talk down and belittle her - then change it. You may not want to have an ongoing relationship with your GF, but you need to have an ongoing relationship with your child.

This is your chance to grow up. Be responsible. Do it.

[zippit]

Frankly I don't feel like your being honest about your treatment of this girl.
A pregnant female running out of state and telling you "i will do it on my own?"
A smell denial

[mikouse]

Don't get me wrong I no its my fault I just wish there was a way to fix it

[talaniman]

I think you stay where you are, and talk to her, and her parents, and start sending money for whatever she needs, and then YOU go and take care of the legal means to get child support for your child.

You can fix nothing until you put forth the effort to make it known your intentions to be a responsible, and willing parent to your child, which includes medical bills.

I think that would go a long way in fixing your situation. Being gainfully employed would also help ALL of you, and solve a few problems.

Her parents will take care of your g/f, but you must take care of your baby.

[talaniman]

She can go where ever she wants. Until you have establish paternity, which you can only do after the birth, you have no rights, only obligations.

Hope you have a job. It takes a judge to give you any say in the matter.

[mikouse]

Financial I will I don't have a problem with that I do agree that it is my responsibility no matter what happens

[talaniman]

Whatever happens, the needs of the child come first. The rest can be ironed out between adults, IN TIME, but nobody argues with a good DAD, as a matter of fact, you will find support for doing the right thing, the right way, even if you and the lady never get back together. Your still tied together by your child, and must work together to be apart of the raising of that child.

Even the courts are willing to work with a guy, if they know he is willing to do whatever it takes for their children.

You just have to put them first, and not let them be a party to any squabbling between the adults.

[mikouse]

I live in ca and need to move to pa for my kid I have a suspended license for multiple dui but I am going to get a ristrected license in 5 months or so will I b able to pick up my son on a ristrected license in pa to spend time with him on the weekends.And another question would be or would it be better to transfer all my school and probation to pa I don't have formal pro all charges got dropt to mistminnors would it be worth doing that if I don't no anyone there can they issue me some kindove work permit or something so I could get a job out there. Thanks for your answeres

[JudyKayTee]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/crimin...on-115783.html.

Your restricted license allows you to drive back and forth to work in PA so, no, you can't pick up, drop off and visit with your "kid" with that license.

The work permit question is answered in the probation link.

[JudyKayTee]

Your two threads tell two different stories. At this time you CAN'T follow her because you are on probation.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...do-405656.html

[JudyKayTee]

All of your threads should be combined - and I have asked a moderator to do so.

Please stop opening new threads with the same question and somewhat different info.

[ScottGem]

Your threads have been merged. Please keep to one thread.