[Rushed19]

Confused! Confused on why I am always wondering if I am interesting or not... I have a few close friends and a big group of friends that I go to parties with and hang around on weekends and such, however I feel like when I'm with these people I'm not really excepted nor wanted around much, am I being too judgmental of myself? I never felt this way until my mom started bringing to my attention that she gets self conscious around groups of people and sometimes doesn't know what to say to be interesting or what not... I never had a problem before and I think this may have triggered a thought. I feel like my best friend is more interesting and funny than me, however when we are sober I think I am better with people, but when its in a fun party setting I start to feel intimidated and uninteresting, like the only people that are really interested are my closest friends and my hubby. I feel like I have lost my touch to getting to know people, I used to be really good at it... Is there any tips anyone has for forgetting my negative thoughts, and just being myself? Or if no one really is interested, then not caring! :(

[LadyI]

You might have a small case of social anxiety.. Especially since something your mom said trigered these thoughts your are having.. If you don't change your thoughts on this matter it might actually get worse. I recoment to look into this book.. written by Dr. Thomas A. Richards. - Overcoming Social Anxiety.. It has very clear ways into changing your thought process.. It would take forever to type anything reasonble on here:) Like I said your case if any is probably very minor but even with someone who deosn't have social anxiety.. the exercisez in the book and the information in generall will help anyone be more confident and feel better about themselves.

[Starry nights]

Hey Rushed,why don't you just loosen up and relax?Seems like you've suddenly developed a case of over-analysing your own moves and behaviour.And you're even aware of what incident might have brought that on.Dont let a remark or an incident stir up a storm where it doesn't exist.Next time you are in a party or gathering,just mingle with people,talk to them,feel yourself opening up and enjoying.Nobody's interesting or uninteresting if they don't feel so themselves.So,just start enjoying and "feeling" interesting inside of yourself and watch how your mood lifts:)

[kctiger]

Sometimes we take ourselves too seriously, our thoughts, our self perception and what not. Starry is right, relax and have fun, don't go there with an agenda to be "interesting." Go there, let loose and enjoy yourself.

Just because you think a certain way doesn't mean you have to take that thought seriously.

[I wish]

If you say that you never felt this way until your mom triggered this part of your emotion, then maybe it's just a phase. You just need to give yourself some time to find your comfort zone. Just keep experiencing things and see what you're more comfortable with instead of trying to force something.

If it's not a phase, then maybe socializing at parties is not your thing. Like you said, some people have an easier time socializing when they are sober and in a different environment. We can't be expected to feel comfortable in every different type of situation.