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    Aug 27, 2009, 09:49 PM
    Girlfriend don't like sex and cant get off
    Hello this is my first question and I'm a little bit nervous I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 18 we have went out for a year now we started having sex right after we went out cause we were already best friends so we were comfterable it hurt her at first but I expected that cause she didn't have sex for a couple years. But I tried to get her to orgasm but nothing every time we have sex it is like uncomforable for her I've tried oral even cause I could get my ex to orgasm easy like that but she just thinks it feels like I'm tickling her and no matter what I do it never feels good for her I've never herd her breath heavy or moan at all in I've tried hard deep slow soft but nothing but by the end she is soaked and most of the time me to I am 220 6'1 she is ~115 and like 5'7 I've never had a problem getting a girl to orgasm weather with oral or by sex and I'm like 8in long and 6in diameter please help
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    Aug 27, 2009, 10:33 PM

    She has to do it herself, maybe with a vibrator. That way she can tell you what she likes and doesn't like. Have you tried a vibrator on her while you are together?
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    Aug 28, 2009, 07:52 AM

    Some women never have an orgasm during sex. She needs to get to know what she likes so that she can tell you what feels best to her.
    Practice.
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    Aug 28, 2009, 08:15 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by simoneaugie View Post
    She has to do it herself, maybe with a vibrator. That way she can tell you what she likes and doesn't like. Have you tried a vibrator on her while you are together?
    Yes I have but she said it just felt like it was making her numb and felt funny
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    Aug 28, 2009, 08:17 AM

    Has she ever given HERSELF an orgasm?
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    Aug 28, 2009, 11:18 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen View Post
    Has she ever given HERSELF an orgasm?
    No I've asked her to play with herself to see what feels good but she just don't like it she says sex just feels like sothing is going in and out but no plesure she describes it as a uncomfortable pressure
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    Aug 28, 2009, 11:20 AM
    Well she has to first become comfortable with her own body, which it does not sound like she is.
    She won't be able to help direct you, when she doesn't understand her own body.
    She won't find sex pleasurable if she is apprehensive and feels guilty about sex.
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    Aug 28, 2009, 04:10 PM

    The FIRST step is for her MIND to be turned on.

    Sounds like it isn't.

    SECOND step is for her to realize that SHE has to give HERSELF an orgasm--you're just incidental to the whole thing.

    And yeah--MOST women cannot orgasm from sex.

    I'd say back off on the sex and go a LOT slower so that she's completely comfortable and aroused.
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