[N ragland]

I have been married for a year. My husband has now decided to show his real side. He states"He not going to hold anything back". The problem is that I never knew he was in the beginning. So we argue like cats and dogs over very small thing but important things. Now He does not like the dog, he enjoy not pulling up his pants above his crack, problem with hygiene, expects me to know where everything is worst than my children. He has become another child instead of my spouse. What am I to do but run!! :confused:

[Just Dahlia]

If he is not going to 'hold anything back' than get him to counseling, so he can let it all out and the same for you. Then make a decision.

[I wish]

If he's not the man you thought you married, then you didn't really know him well enough in the first place. That being said, it's too late to turn back time.

I suggest that you try to express your concerns to him and see how he reacts. Furthermore, recommend marriage counselling for the two of you and see where that leads.

If there's no progress after your efforts, then maybe it's time to call it quits. There's no reason for you to continue to suffer.

[Gemini54]

'Problems with hygiene?'... eeeew. Perhaps you should treat him like the child he is and give him a good spanking. Just joking.

The only way to respond to a person like this is to stop arguing and reacting and stop doing things for him. It sounds as if he's trying to get a reaction from you by provoking you. So don't react, don't find things for him (he's got eyes, arms and legs hasn't he?) and ignore the bad hygiene. Sleep in another bed if you have to.

Let him know that his behavior is childish, set strong boundaries about what you'll put up with and stick to them. It's time he grew up, and you're right, you're not his mother.

[jmjoseph]

Do you love him? Or do you loath him? He's showing you his real side , and that's not the man you married, so... He's not holding anything back? He was a wolf in sheep's clothing. I suggest you leave him.