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    Deirde Mangan Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 26, 2009, 02:10 AM
    Is there any Hope for my ex and me, based on this email he sent me?
    Hi dee... you don't have to apologize, you didn't do anything bad... just, I think you were too fast for me, and well I think you expected more than I could give you... do you understand me? Sorry if you felt bad, that was not my intention, so I thought the best was not to have contact to you to let things pass... I hope you understand me, I think you are a very nice girl, so I never didn't want to hurt you... I hope everything OK with you.
    He is spanish, english is not his first language, (I am irish).
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    Aug 26, 2009, 02:29 AM
    No-he s telling you exactly how he feels and he s asking if you re OK possibly out of guilt.there s nothing there that suggests getting back together. Let this go and move on for your own sake.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 05:14 AM

    no... he is trying to explain why he left...
    Sounds like he did like you, but you were too intense/fast.
    He probably wants a slow buildup of love/lust first.
    Who knows.
    Sorry to hear, hope your heart heals well
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    Aug 26, 2009, 05:24 AM

    Typical break up email. To me it doesn't sound like he is remotely interested in getting back together... key line in that email was: "You are a very nice girl..." That usually means romantic feelings are out the door.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 07:15 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by kctiger View Post
    Typical break up email. To me it doesn't sound like he is remotely interested in getting back together...key line in that email was: "You are a very nice girl..." That usually means romantic feelings are out the door.
    Hey,my break-up e-mail was kind of like this one,though it actually didn't suggest a break-up.It was way more condescending along the lines of "I dont exactly rule out a future together" etc etc,but had a huge BUT,meaning terms and conditions attached,as if he didn't rule out a future if I did or didn't do certain things.

    Anyway,sorry for diverting but the point dear is that this is the kind of e-mail one writes when one just doesn't want to have to do anything with the relationship anymore.

    Its time to accept this as a break-up and move on,recover in your own way.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 07:54 AM

    ""you don't have to apologize, you didnt do anything bad..."""

    That line to me sounds like he's deflecting blame from you and onto himself. Typical behavior when someone feels guilty for making the other feel bad.
    Usually means there is no future together, cause he wouldn't feel guilty if he will give you what you want.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 09:00 AM

    This is an example of problems with people continuing to communicate with their exes.

    He's made it clear that he wants a break up. Now avoid contact with him. Otherwise, you will continue to over-analyze everything he says to you. For example, this email, it's clear to all of us that he wants a breakup, but for some reason you have twisted the email into thinking that there "might" be a chance with him.

    I'm sorry to sound harsh, but you need to let him go and move on with your life.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 09:31 AM

    Is there any Hope for my ex and me, based on this email he sent me?
    No!! He is telling you its over, and he is moving on, and so should you.
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    Aug 26, 2009, 09:44 AM

    I thought the best was not to have contact to you to let things pass
    Obviously he tried no contact. Sounds to me like you've been trying to contact him and this is his final attempt to make you realize that it's over, that he bears no ill will towards you, but he's done, wants to move on with his life.

    He's giving you closure, so take it and move on.

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