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    xyz_1983 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 2, 2006, 04:45 PM
    Should I leave him?
    I have been married since one year, but we never lived together as he was a student. So I stayed with my parents. Also our marriage is not revealed to any of our relatives, friends yet.
    After few months I migrated to another country for my further studies and he stayed back as he has started working. We never lived together. We had a court marriage against our parents will. My parents accepted it after marriage and his parents pretended to him that they had accepted. However his parents started convincing him to divorce me. Due to this we had frequent fights. His parents always used to create problems between us by some means. Now that I'm in another country, they still have brain washed him for divorce. We both had a big fight and we are not in contact since more than 3 weeks. Also one other thing is that he always speaks lie to me. He somehow pretends to show me that he cares a lot for me and so every time tells me that he doesn't talk with his parents. But afterwards I find the truth that he is actually talking with them. This has happened 4-5 times till now. I'm fed up of his parents' trouble and his lying habit. Should I leave him? Please help!
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    Nov 2, 2006, 05:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by xyz_1983
    I have been married since one year, but we never lived together as he was a student. So i stayed with my parents. Also our marriage is not revealed to any of our relatives, friends yet.
    After few months i migrated to another country for my further studies and he stayed back as he has started working. We never lived together. We had a court marriage against our parents will. My parents accepted it after marriage and his parents pretended to him that they had accepted. However his parents started convincing him to divorce me. Due to this we had frequent fights. His parents always used to create problems between us by some means. Now that I'm in another country, they still have brain washed him for divorce. We both had a big fight and we are not in contact since more than 3 weeks. Also one other thing is that he always speaks lie to me. He somehow pretends to show me that he cares a lot for me and so everytime tells me that he doesn't talk with his parents. But afterwards i find the truth that he is actually talking with them. This has happened 4-5 times till now. I'm fed up of his parents' trouble and his lying habit. Should i leave him? Please help!
    You should leave him
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    Nov 2, 2006, 05:29 PM
    You should leave him
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    Nov 2, 2006, 05:31 PM
    You should leave the boy:mad:
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    Nov 2, 2006, 06:36 PM
    I notice you didn't say that you love him. If you don't, get out as soon as possible and get on with your life. If you do love him, you have my sympathy, because the answer is not so easy. With such an inauspicious start, your marriage would be difficult at best. It sounds like maybe it was a youthful mistake that you need to learn from and move on.
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    Nov 3, 2006, 04:06 AM
    Marriage IS a commitment.
    I think you 2 rushed into something you weren't both totally 100% sure about.
    Due to this you are finding it hard to communicate.

    What was the immediate rush to get married?
    Why was this marriage against your parents will?

    The whole start of this marriage seemed wrong.
    You need to work things out as a couple alone. Just the 2 of u.
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    Nov 3, 2006, 06:31 AM
    Hard to be married if your not there together.
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    Nov 3, 2006, 07:17 AM
    Sweety, there is no need to be miserable. If you know in your heart that this just does not work for you, then let it go! I know this may be a little cheesy and you've heard it a million and one times but hun you only live once and there is absolutely no need of being miserable if you don't have to be. And besides that's his parents, do you really believe that he's going to go aganst them for you, if so then I wouldn't be sending you this response!
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    Nov 3, 2006, 08:06 AM
    Not understanding why yous aren't living together or haven't lived together. Too many other people involved. This decision should be between the two of you... not your parents. You married each other and are adults so yous are the only ones that can make this decision. If yous cannot communite then that is a bad start to a marriage. The first year is suppose to be the best but sounds like it's already pretty rocky! Talk to him about what he wants and what you want and where yous foresee your future together. Are yous both willing to try to make the marriage work??

    Good Luck!

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