What is really going on?

asking · Aug 24, 2009, 07:58 AM

Okay. I just read the two other threads. That kind of changes things...

smoothy · Aug 24, 2009, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by LJDK

I did consider it at one stage but then thought sex is just sex and i need to forget about it. We did have great sex last night... which kind of convinces me there is hope.

Although i doubt i would want sex with her any time soon. She reached climax pretty quickly last night. We stopped and i was smoking when she asked if i finished. I said no, but its ok. I have a hard time saying no stop when she is pulling me into her. So we went at it again, but she pulled her face as if in pain.

I stopped and asked is going, why is she pulling her face... but she ignored me and continued and well i did the only thing that was left to be done. Finish. So now i feel pretty bad and im not sure what is going on with her atm. I did ask her about the face pulling thing again, but she said it was a little sore but pleasureable at the same time.

This disturbs me. Guess i will avoid sex for a while. Dont think it was normal what happend last night and i kind of feel like i hurt her in some way.

The bad thing is, if i insist on stopping the act when i see that expression she gets upset and feels she cannot satisfy me. If i continue i feel lousy. Sigh.

Sounds almost passive-agressive on her part.

LJDK · Aug 28, 2009, 07:50 AM

Just an update. I made peace with our sex life. All things aside, not getting enough, not satisfying her, being stopped in the middle, I would say I kind of convinces myself this is how it is with her.

She is going to a therapist end of next month. Still a while but I reckon we will survive until then. Have had some great sexual encounters in the mean time. :)

smoothy · Aug 28, 2009, 08:10 AM

Give her the chance to make improvements... but put off any plans for getting married until some point after those improvements are made.

If she recognises she has a problem, and is taking steps for improvement half the battle is over.

artlady · Aug 28, 2009, 08:32 AM

Reading all of your threads(your other posts) makes me believe she is having some psychological problems,possibly the result of KAT use.

I think she has a need to be in control in the bedroom for some reason.Be it getting a sense of pleasure from your pain or just having the upper hand and controlling the sex.This sounds like she is engaging in BDSM without you being aware of it.

Bottom line ,I think she is playing out some sort of neurotic fantasy and you are the pawn in the game.
I think she needs psychiatric help.