[Kylaa]

I have had a rather rocky on and off relationship with a guy for 8 years. We have just recently split up and I am finding it very hard to get over him. Last night in a club my friend met my ex's best friend and they clicked and have kissed and exchanged numbers. I got so upset at this because of how close this is to my ex and how she would have contact with him indirectly and I wouldn't want to know anything about him, I am trying to get over him. Anyway I asked her not to see the best friend again and we both got upset but she agreed reluctantly and I felt really bad about it. After much thought in my own head I decided that I didn't want to be the reason my friend doesn't get the chance to meet a nice guy and who knows what could happen.. The most important thing to me is our friendship so I said to her to just go for it with the best friend and she has since contacted him. I am now feeling like I may regret this in the future and still not totally comfortable with the situation, have I done the right thing?

[88sunflower]

Yes I think you have done the right thing. If she is your best friend then I think you can openly talk to her and explain what your thinking. Just let her know your happy for her but please don't mention your ex if at all possible. There may be a chance she might slip. But if so just smile at her story, be happy for her and let it rest. It's a sticky area. She has the chance for the happiness while your hurting, but all in the same social circle. I think if you both stay open with each other you can work around it.

[talaniman]

You did the right thing, she desrves a chance to have fun, and be happy, even if your not.