I'm confused... need help

mike_jones · Oct 30, 2006, 07:33 PM

Hi

Its my first time using this site
I'm not sure how ecaxtly it works
But I will give it a try

OK here's my story, there was this girl that I was pretty good friends with... and some how I started to like her a lot... but she didn't feel the same... so she obviously rejected me and it was weird bcoz we were friends an all so it was an unconfortable situation... since we haven't talked to each other, that's like a month ago...
Anyway, I'm wondering if I should talk to her... coz I miss her as a friend and I would like to be friends with her again... but I'm not sure if it's a good idea because I have no clue how would she react or if she already find some 1 else or something like that so she might be freaked out that I am coming after her or something... I don't know, I'm confused...
So please gimme your adivice what should I do because I have no clue how would she react

Krs · Oct 31, 2006, 01:53 AM

If she is such a good friend she should understand...
Talk to her, tell her you miss as a friend and that's it, there's nothing more to it.
Just make it clear that you miss her as a FRIEND and nothing more.
Then ask her how she feels about it!

s_cianci · Oct 31, 2006, 07:11 PM

You can talk to her again as a friend. Don't be disappointed if your friendship doesn't resume at the same level it had been. You may have scared her off. Unfortunately, it's often hard, once you've established yourself as a "friend", to change the nature of that relationship into a romantic course. She just doesn't "see you that way." The best thing you can do is to become a little flirty and aloof towards her, without pushing the issue. That might possibly spark some interest. If it does, continue to take things slow and easy without getting your hopes up.

mike_jones · Oct 31, 2006, 07:20 PM

Well thanks for your advices... my BIG concern is that I have no clue how would she react if I resume talking to her...

So imma ask all you girls, how would you react if you were at that position??

Krs · Nov 1, 2006, 01:00 AM

Right OK, I'm a girl and if I respected you enough and liked you as a good friend, I would be fine and understandable.
You just make sure you make is very clear that you have no bad intentions and that your intentions are genuine and really want to be JUST friends with her.

talaniman · Nov 1, 2006, 07:55 AM

Give it time and the next time you talk be a friend. She may believe you, she may not. Its up to her!

K_3 · Nov 1, 2006, 08:01 AM

Talk to her, tell you you miss her as a friend and you want that friendship back. Do not be flirtatous and aloof with her. Don't go there. She only wanted friendship with you and if you try that approach it will make it worse and you haven't talked in over a month so much for being aloof. Did you ask her out or how did she know you liked her more than a friend?

ashbyr02 · Nov 1, 2006, 08:52 AM

Hey
I'm not really shore how she will react but I think you should start talking to her even it means you 2 just being friends been there done that and I know how it feels but don't go strait to her fone her up and start from there at least it's a start then start meeting up with her again then I bet your freindship will be back to the way it was there might be a few ups and downs but don't remind her how you feel it might chuck her off altogether
It might not be the answer you're looking for but it's the only chance you got of getting her back as just a friend

capy · Nov 1, 2006, 05:08 PM

Originally Posted by mike_jones

hi

its my first time using this site
i m not sure how ecaxtly it works
but i will give it a try

ok here's my story, there was this girl that i was pretty good friends with....and some how i started to like her alot...but she didnt feel the same....so she obviously rejected me and it was wierd bcoz we were friends an all so it was an unconfortable situation....since we havent talked to eachother, thats like a month ago...
anyways, i m wondering if i should talk to her...coz i miss her as a friend and i would like to be friends with her again...but i m not sure if its a good idea because i have no clue how would she react or if she already find some 1 else or something like that so she might be freaked out that i am coming after her or somethin...i dont know, i m confused...
so please gimme your adivice what should i do coz i have no clue how would she react

Give it a go mat, when u die it'l flash before you that you didn't at least ask. The thing is its all about working out loads of stuff to make finding the right person feel definiatly right.