[susanx94]

Hey i'm 15 years old and i have like this big massive gap between me and my dad. I don't get along with him at all and were constantly argueing and fighting.. how do i stop this and should I tell someone?

[xxxrosexxx]

I've just turned 16 and me and my dad argued aaaall the time and I wouldn't even anknowlege that he was around the house and I would tell myself all the time 'i hate my dad' but sometimes it would just get too much and I would cry about it. So I spoke to my mum about it telling her I couldn't stand my dad and wish he would just leave, but I think she had a word with him and made my dad realise he was pushing me away and slowly things started to get better and we get on better now so yeah talk to someone in your family is my advice.. :)

[adam_89]

Yea, I agree with rose.

Things will get better. You will hate yourslef down the road if you don't build a bond.

You have to do something to make your dad realize what he is doing and that he could lose you.

For me it was running away from home and putting a restraining order on him. That kind of woke him up a little bit. We get along well now. Go to gun shows together, go golfing together and all kinds of cool stuff when we are both free. Hell one more year and I am sure he will take me to a bar

[Wondergirl]

You're right on target. Teens your age usually "hate" one or both of their parents as part of the separation phase of development. You're becoming an adult and want to do your own thing and be independent, but are still stuck under your parents' roof and have to obey their rules. Like someone said, talk to one or both parents about this and have a family meeting to come up with strategies to improve the situation. It will take compromises on everyone's part.

Of course, if any kind of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse is going on, that needs to be dealt with differently. I am guessing you are in a normal, non-dysfunctional family.

[N0help4u]

Try seeing things from his perspective
Listen to his say and consider it before you have your say.

Pick your battles.

My son is 22 and he will still go on and on telling me something and I already know the answer for his problem before he even tells me yet he will go on and on with details. I still have the same conclusion even after all that because parents have already seen, heard, been there, done that so they are smarter than kids realize.

Quote attributed to Mark Twain
When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.