[tony112]

For 2 and a half years I was going out with this girl and in the last 2 months of our time together we had sex (we were virgins). 2 months later she wants out of the relationship saying she wants to experience "new things" and be with her friends (she was going to college and was 17. I was 19) completely understandable, and I told her that, and so that was that. Left on good terms. We had a "good" breakup, full of advice and good wishes. She wanted to be friends afterward but she started acting strange in the hours after we broke up. She was asking her friends if there were any single guys in school and when can she meet them, and telling me that she didn't have to go to school tomorrow because her mother said she was upset. And she was happy about this. After that I just stopped communicating with her, she was showing her true colors and I didn't like it, and I don't need that. (and it hurt a lot to stop talking to her, I did it also because I couldn't get over her unless I blocked her out completely.) so I ignored her, but she told my friend she understood and I haven't heard from her. 4 months later she got a new boyfriend, and I checked out her Facebook to see what was up. They met 4 months after our breakup and they have been going out for 2 months. Around the second month they had sex. Now while I know its none of my concern what she does, it hurts to know that the girl you loved just met a guy and had sex after a few weeks of knowing him, while we were together for years and only did it at the end. I know all this because she posts snips about her little sexual adventures, and this shocks me too as she was a very private girl before and NEVER talked about this stuff. This got me thinking that she didn't love me when we had sex, I mean who has sex with someone and then breaks up 2 months later, out of the blue. She never mentioned she was unhappy or any intention to breakup until the day we actually did. So this too hurts me. Before we broke up she told me she would marry me "in the future", but I don't think I want her anymore. How do I get over the fact that she is sleeping with a new guy so soon?

[tony112]

Sorry, it was after 1 month that they had sex, not 2 months

[amicon]

She sounds confused but it really is none of your business any more.stop following her life online.you don't like her anymore.leave it at that and let this go.

[jlove09]

This is a real hard situation for you isn't it? Usually, I'll stay stick around and win her back but she seems like she's really gone. That would hurt, knowing your girlfriend of 2 years got a new guy. Move on. Try slowing dwn on checking up on her, it helps a lot

[tony112]

Oh yeah I am slowing down. I have completely blocked her off, almost. Blocked her on fb, the works. I mean when we broke up I offered to work it out but she made it very clear and blunt that she didn't want no more. I guess I'm not a guy who will fight for a girl that makes it so obvious she's finished. I guess I'm upset she got a new "love" before me. And I'm mad that its taken me this long to get over her, yet she's already on with a new life, etc. its more of a sadness that I got used and left than wanting her back.

[jlove09]

Dude, I suffered the same consquences when I chased my ex. She told me it's over, she's gone, she's got a new guy (doubt it! Probably just saying it) After all the ECK OFFS and LEAVE ME ALONES. I refused to, I stayed persistent and msged her casually and sometimes telling her I miss her etc. But I told her Im going to stop msging for a while. Wrote her a poem and she unblocked me on msn. That's a big deal cause I told her get out of my face (Immature) I know and made her block me everywhere then out of nowhere I want her back then she refuses to come back but I pressured her and now she's back. Haven't spoken to her but I don't plan to till like a months time. Nothing is going to stop me from being persistent and waiting around for her. I am still open to meet other grls but in my heart, she's the one I aim to be with.

[tony112]

Well if your heart is telling you to be with this girl then by all means go for it. I still have attachment to my ex because we shared so much, but the way she is acting is kind of sick considering how much we've done together and how much she supposesdly cared. I'm young anyway, time to get out and meet new people. I mean there's so many people in this word that if one doesn't want to return my love, then off. This may sound cold but its something I'm going to adhere to. That's like the point of the relationship, knowing that someone is there for you and your there for someone. If its only half of that, then I can do better. But if you truly feel like she's the one, then there's nothing wrong with it. I thought mine was "the one", then she broke up and started sleeping with another guy. So I guess there goes that theory...

[jlove09]

Are you sure she slept with this guy? Is there definitely a new guy? Most likely be a rebound and they won't work out. Don't worry dude. You can still love her, not try or move on and live your own damn life. Keep your options open and still have fun and become a better person. If she comes back, she comes back if she doesn't then she doesn't :) Life is too short for wasting time or trying to find solutions for relationships. I don't think she's the one but Its not like Im trying nor moving on. Lol Im just being here, living my life. I wonder if she misses me and stuff but tats not stopping my world from moving.

[Riot]

Jeez, man that must hurt. I mean, I totally flipped when I heard my ex was DANCING with another guy at a party...
For two months I tried to get back with her until a series of... events occurred
Time to fry new fish! Never thought I would (or could) move on, but I did...

[kctiger]

The beauty of life... once you are broken up BOTH of you are free to live your OWN lives! You both have a right to move on without care for the other.

[talaniman]

The best way to stay out of other people's business, is to have your own.

[tony112]

Yeah, I know were broken up and free to do as we please, but in the "hours" after the breakup up she was moving on pretty nicely. So I'm guessing she was over me before we broke up. Which is a shame because she wanted to have sex bad, and had to kind of talk me into it (but not too much ;) ) it just seems like she wanted to get it over with and start having sex with other guys. She was a very loving girlfriend, at least I thought she was, but she always had this attitude that nothing in life is serious. So I guess her having sex with a guy so soon is her idea manifesting.

[talaniman]

We live, and learn, my friend.