[empressa]

Hi, I'm really depressed because I didn't expect that we going to turned like this. We spent two years. I am 20 years old now and now my ex boyfriend is 18 years old now. I met him when he was 16 years old and I was 18 that time. I am his first true love, almost first in everything, we really loved each other... we've been in many down times together. He actually dropped his school for me because he wanted to be with me, he was so jealous, proud that he has girlfriend even I'm older than him, he fought out with his parents and he said he loves me because that time his parents didn't expect that their baby has a girlfriend now, we went in many places, we shared many happy memories... and there were times we had so much fights but in the end we still love each other, I did many mistakes and hurt him too, but the love was there... and NOW we BROKE UP... recently, just last week, he told me that he wants space and he wants to be independent which I do understand because for a long time he was with me and he was dependent. And what hurts most is he has a new girlfriend now and he told me that yeah he loves her but its not that like we had... that most of the people around us saw us how happy we were unlike his new relationship. His new girlfriend is 14 years old and he is 18 now. But his parents still likes me because their parents did witness our love we had. And his parents are still want to talk to me and hoping to be with their son. Now, he is studying again and has a better grades... I am sad because he has new girlfriend now... but he wants me to stay and he promised me if he will be back he won't loose me but do I still wait for him? I feel like a least option which I was not before. Is he happy now? Actually we made promises that we going to be together in time. But he told me that he is happy with his new girlfriend but I feel not like we were even his parents don't like the girl esp. his mother. I'm really sad... do I still have a hope with me? And the last time we were together we were happy... I feel that he loves me. Please help me, and the what is that if talk so strong he makes dramas... that I don't love him anymore if I'm weak and crying he will says that I need to accpet the reality he has new girlfriend now. But he keeps on saying I love you. I am the one who cut our communication because I what to move on but can't stop thinking of him. And he always saying that if someone will come to my life that guy will be lucky etc.I really don't know... :( PLEASE GUYS HELP ME OUT! I want him back... coz I really love him.

[twinkiedooter]

He's a child who's just 18. Now he has girlfriend #2 in his life and has no idea how to handle that. He's just growing up. You, on the other hand are 20 and should know better than date a child.

He's setting himself up for some major problems since his new girlfriend is 14. Trust me, he's going to have major problems the longer he stays with her.

If he does come back by then I hope that you have moved on and gotten yourself a real boy friend more your age that you can interrelate with on a peer basis and not just an "I'm older than him" thing. You seem to be much more mature than he is right now as guys tend to mature a little later than girls do.

[chuff]

You both have a lot... A LOT of growing up to do. You also didn't sound like you had a great relationship if you were fighting a lot. When you learn about yourself and what you will put up with and what you will not it will help you alleviate this in the future.

[talaniman]

All due respect, its time to let go. Read the stickies at the beginning of this forum, and see how others have dealt with the same situation your in now.