[cinderalla13]

Dear Sir,

First I want your advice in my situation, and then we will speak about relationship,

I introduce myself my name is Cinderalla, 40 years old, I'm Egyptian girl work as Electrical Design Engineer, I live in Kuwait city, …………..

I was in love with married man, he chase me a lot and I refused him for one year because he is marry, after one year I make with him love one time, after that I feel it was wrong to make a love with him.

I said to him: it was wrong to make like that, you are marry, at the end you will be with your wife, I lost the game.

He tried to be with me again, and he start to chase me, and because really I need relation in my life and I'm internally accept him, I ask to do relation with him and keep his life as it is, and when I will get nice and good man, we will be separate, and each one go to his life, He refused and he star to tell to me he want to divorce her, and he is internally he do not want her,

I do not know, I did not believe him in the beginning, because he has 3 children, I do the relation with him and in the same time I'm trying to find good man to marry him, but he is always feeling about that and he is fighting with me.

And every 5 minute he is calling me and start asking what I do? where I'm

After finishing my daily duty time he was with me until middle of night, he calling me when he go to his house, and speaking with me for 2 hours more.

He was fighting with me if I did not call him when he go to his house, I was telling to him, may be your wife will become upset. He said no, she will not upset, she did not care about me, and he fighting so many times to call him after he go to his home and he give me his home number. But I'm insist to call him in his mobile.

In the same time, I was confusing between leave him and try to get another free man, I'm greedy for that. He is taking of care about me too much, in sex and the entire life requirement.

After 5 months, I go to him and I said to him, I'm agree about our relation and I'm ready to face any problem toward that but you should to divorce her as you promise me, he accepted about my requirements, but I'm still from inside I'm not accepted about that. I continue the relation with him.

Note: Me and Him working in the same Company.

Since we are working in the same company but different dept. he ask m e to take the annual leave in the same time, I refused because I planned my vacation with my dept. since last year, I cannot change it.

But at the last few months, I asked him when he will divorce his wife, he answer he want divorce her with the reason become impossible between him and her not because there is a new lady.

I did not answer, but I'm not feeling good, because the way of my manner if I want somebody, I will ask him direct not using different way to tell the result.

One day before I traveled, I tell him I will not travel because if I left him, I lose him. He tells no travel but 2 weeks only.

I traveled but I stay 5 weeks, he was with me at telephone all the day, or chatting. I set in my vacation last 2 weeks and I decide about him, because I have another alternative in the same time but leaving in another country I was calling him or calling me each 3 weeks once, because he is a business man.

I came back from my vacation I found her knows about me, she is fighting with him against me. And in that day he was chatting with me all the night because the airplane. Be late 10 hours in the air port.

And he picks up me from the airport at 7:00 clock morning.

In that day, he asking me if she call me, tell her we are only colleague.

I ask him, what do you want, he answer: he want me and wants his children, he do not her.

Then I ask: what you will do?

He answer “I plan something and you destroyed by calling her in her mobile before traveling”

Now, I do not know

He goes outside again with me, and she feels it about, she takes her children and goes to her sister.

He stay 10 days without his children and he call her after 10 days, I need the children come back

She sit with her family, sister, brother and speak with him speaking he is not sharing at house, charring... change the subject.

After that he traveled with her children and her to see his family in his vacation.

He was in his country with his family, calling me each half hour, chatting with me all the day.

After one week. It become familiar to me, if he go for one hour was fighting with him, I asked him what he did with her. If he make love with her or not.

One day I fight with him too much and I become crazy too much because he was with her.

And I send email for him I asked him I'm too much depressed because, it is not my manner to steal a man from another woman.

I talk to him too much push him to ask me in the next day, to go and search new man.

We stopped talking for 2 days, and then he spoke with normal as before and chatting together again, many times a day

I'm still feeling bad from inside.

He will come from his vacation next week.

Please tell me your advice. What shall do or take action towards...

Note: I'm really Beautiful, I have sexy body. Always all the men follow me. But not accept him

Please I need advise


Thank you

[amicon]

I think you'll find that the obvious advice is: leave this man -he's playing with your emotions, and you re allowing this so called relationship to, stop you from finding a normal decent man. How much longer are you going to let yourself suffer this? Tell him its over, and mean it.

[Jake2008]

Wake up and smell the coffee!

He has no intention of leaving his wife, and three children.

You have no business dating a married man with three children.

You say you feel badly about it, yet you continue to be the other woman.

He is not available, he's off limits, and you should dump him immediately.

It never works out being the other woman, and believing that he will leave his wife for you. If he had already left her, and done the right thing in divorcing her, then by all means he's available.

But, while he is married, he continues to shoot you a line, and you know that he is not sincere.

Time to move on. You can do much better with a man of your own, who is single.

[talaniman]

You're a sucker for love(?) and he takes advantage of it. You have only to stop seeing, and talking to him, and leave him alone. It's that simple so do it or stay miserable on the inside.

This was a dead end street from the beginning. If your so sexy, why waste time with a married guy? Are you that desperate, or are you afraid, of a real relationship??

[cinderalla13]

No, I'm not afraid from a real relationship, but I want to say : I'm 40 years old, and still virgin, I'm resposible about 5 sisters and brothers to feed them and to educate them.I donot have time before to make a relation. And now I'm not old, but at least I will not find one man free and when I met him and found him he is in love with me and love me too much, I prefer to be with him rather than find another person only searching for marry only; without love; from his behaviour I believed him.
That is all.

Please tell me what I will do ?

[talaniman]

Leave the married guy alone.

[amicon]

I'm getting confused here-on the one hand you slept with him once but on the other you re a virgin? In my book that's two different things.advice:find someone who iS NOT MARRIED. All of us are telling you this.married men dear lady tend to STAY married.

[harriejansen]

There are quite a few single guys on the board who would love to take you out!