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THEpurplepeanut · Aug 11, 2009, 02:55 PM

Today was freshman orientation so I went to the high school for 3 hours to get to know the school, my classes, my teachers, my senior advisors, and of course see my friends after a long summer break. Well after this whole thing I had to walk home and my guy friend (who is a little more than a friend but not dating) was walking with me. We then stopped to cross a street and he told me that he was moving and said that that wasn't the worst part. He also said that he couldn't wait for me any longer ( long story, before summer started he told me he liked me too and that since I can't date yet he would wait until I could) and he wants to be just friends. I feel like an idiot because I believed the part about how he said he would wait for me and every smart person knows that a teenage boy isn't really going to wait for 2 years just to date some girl. I had a feeling something like this was going to happen but I still kept my hopes up a little too high and I am now I am completely crushed. I am having mixed feelings about this and I'm surprised about the fact that I'm not completely depressed. I'm sad because of the obvious, a little angry at myself for believing what he said about waiting for me, a little relieved that I'm not "holding him back", a little confused about why he chose today to tell me and not call earlier to tell me, and somewhat happy he still wants to be friends. I go back to school next week and I know "there are plenty of fish in the sea" but I really liked him and I know it's going to be awkward seeing him. Part of me wants to still be friends and the other part of me just wants to avoid him for the rest of the time he is here. I really don't want to be dealing with this so how could I get through this? It's already hard enough I'm going to high school for the first time and I really don't need this right now. What should I do? :confused:

N0help4u · Aug 11, 2009, 03:08 PM

He could have meant it when he said it but now with him moving the reality sunk in that you will have different lives. He may even feel that he wants to wait for you but felt that he should have the decency to let you off the hook waiting for him since he is moving.

I wouldn't make an issue of it and just accept things for what they are now and see where it goes. You can still be his friend and keep updated on things with him.
Who knows eventually you may end up together.

This doesn't make you an idiot

THEpurplepeanut · Aug 11, 2009, 03:17 PM

I highly doubt we will end up together because he's moving to Florida and I live in Illinois. And also the way he said it I think he might have found someone else. It just kills me that he knew it the whole summer and didn't tell me sooner, maybe he didn't know how to tell me, but I was mature about the situation.

N0help4u · Aug 11, 2009, 03:20 PM

Yeah he should have told you sooner but maybe he was afraid of losing you for the summer. You know like he wanted to have this summer special for the good memories.

I still wouldn't let it come between you. You have a lifetime and you never know how things will go.

THEpurplepeanut · Aug 11, 2009, 03:22 PM

We didn't even talk at all through the summer. He has my number but he never gave me his. I feel stupid for starting this kind of relationship at the end of the school year.

N0help4u · Aug 11, 2009, 03:28 PM

Oh I thought you were closer.
Still there is no reason to feel stupid.

THEpurplepeanut · Aug 11, 2009, 03:42 PM

We have known each other for almost 2 years. I think I still have a reason to feel like a stupid idiot. I didn't pay attention to any of the signs:

1. taking my number but not giving me his
2. telling me he likes me a week and a 1/2 before school ends
3. not keeping in touch with me at all during the summer

I should have known by sign #1 but I didn't pay attention. I think he might have been just using me to show off to his friends, well, maybe I'm just pissed.

HelpinHere · Aug 11, 2009, 04:20 PM

Well, 2 points in your OP:
1: i go back to school next week and i know "there are plenty of fish in the sea" but i really liked him and i know it's going to be awkward seeing him.

Well, he's moving to another state, so I doubt you'll ever see him at school. So, no awkwardness, it's all good! :)

2: i feel like an idiot because i believed the part about how he said he would wait for me and every smart person knows that a teenage boy isn't really going to wait for 2 years just to date some girl.

Well, you're not just "some girl" but you are correct. There is no guy (or girl) at that age who will wait for two years. There are too many opportunities in your age group. When you show me one who would, I will legally change my name to "Help in Here"! :)

Well, anyway, just forget about him. You aren't even allowed to date for two more years, so just ignore boys for now, and focus on your schoolwork, hobbies, etc. Trust me, you will find it really easy when you refocus your mind.