[jswear28]

I no I am only 16, but I know I have fallen in love. I have felt this way about this girl for so long. It's such a different feeling that I have never felt before and it is amazing. She knows, we talk about it all the time. I have known her for so long. She says she loves me and that everything will work out in the end, but she says she does not want a relationship right now. She says she is done with guys until after high school. Even though she tells me she wants to be with me later and that everything will work out the way it should. I get so scared and upset thinking about it not working out at all, and that I have to wait. I don't know what to do, it hurts so much. I am a really sensative guy and have a lot of pain inside me. Sometimes I just cry, and say why. Why do I feel this way, why can't I just be happy thinking about her. I need some serious advice on this situation. Sorry it's so long.

[Justwantfair]

Well if your faith tells you that you will be together in the end, why do you feel a need to rush right now?
It is a very smart and mature decision she has made to wait until after high school to date.
Does that mean that you can not spend time together?

[Alty]

Be her friend, enjoy your time with her. If you both still feel strongly about each other after high school then go from there.

All good things come to those who wait. :)

She's concentrating on her school work now, that's a wise, mature decision. Maybe you should be doing the same.

There's plenty of time to be in love later on.

Good luck.

[N0help4u]

She is doing things the better way
Patience is a virtue.
You could be dating right now and break up so waiting may be on your side.
Keep getting to know her and eventually it will most likely just evolve as time goes on

[jswear28]

Maybe waiting is better, but I get so afraid of losing her. Even though she tells me I won't lose her. I'm just trying to be happy, but I can never ever see the good. I don't know why I'm so pessimistic. How can I make the best of it and be happy?

[I wish]

It's normal to feel that you are losing her. If she says that things will work out in the end, then you have to trust her. You're losing trust in her before you even start. Have more faith in her.

However, I suggest that you keep your head up. You don't want to be all sad and moppy around her. Just focus on making things fun around her and enjoy the time that you spend together!

[jswear28]

I guess I just need to change my attitude. Thanks everyone. The only other thing I'm having trouble with is the pain inside. I don't know why I am so emotional. Is this normal? Or do I need help? It's uncontrollable, I get these painful feelings inside me of fear and I try to redirect my thoughts but it never works.

[amicon]

Have you thought about counselling? Being emotional is not a fault. Its good to be in touch with our emotions.