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    cieraloveex3 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 7, 2009, 08:58 PM
    Ex boyfriend.
    Okay, well I dated this boy for 5 months. He broke up with me the day before our 5 month anniversary. He came to my house and hung out with me all day then at the end of the day he told me he cheated on me. I was crushed, I still cry to this day & it has been 5 months since we broke up. I tried putting him out of my life, I stopped talking to him for a while but it didn't work. He was all I thought about & he still is all I think about. We had such a strong relationship but that little thing ruined us. He tells me he loves me all the time, so I recently asked him "If you love me so much why are you still with her?" & he replied saying "I do love her but when I talk to you it's different" His best friend & my best friend date & they both are also my best friends. His best friend tells me that me & him are so cute together & we belong together & my best friend tells me the same thing, but he is still with that girl! It hurts me everyday, I wonder what she had that I didn't! Some people tell me to let go, but I love him, and your not suppose to give up on someone you love. He is my everything. I have dated a lot of guys but this one is the only one I loved. I don't know what to do! I need advice!
    Help me please.:(
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    Justwantfair Posts: 3,422, Reputation: 944
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    Aug 7, 2009, 09:34 PM

    You do know what you need to do, you just aren't willing to do it.
    Sometimes things don't work out the way we hoped they would and it absolutely crushes our spirit, but you don't have any choice but to pick yourself up dust off and move on.
    He made the mistake but you are the one with the price to pay.
    Forget about going back to someone who didn't treat you well when he was with you.
    The only way to heal now is NO CONTACT.
    As long as you continue contact with someone you have feelings for then those feelings can never be resolved.
    Read the stickies about no contact on the top of the Relationship Forum, hopefully it will help you find your light at the end of the tunnel.
    You deserve that and you deserve better than what he has to offer you.
    You don't give up on someone you love, but it has to be a two way street and right now you are sitting on a one-way street.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Aug 8, 2009, 11:28 AM
    Cheating is not a little thing at all, and no way, do you reward bad behavior, or being treated badly with your love. Just no way, that's crazy. The fact you think he is your everything tells me you were far more "in love" than he was, and that's just not healthy. He is still with her because he likes her better, so he wasn't the one for you. Stop contacting him, and in time, you will let go. Just hurts too much right now, to see that.

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