[helpplease2010]

So I dated this guy for a year and 5 months and we broke up, and now he has another girlfriend, but he heard I was talking to another guy and called me as soon as he heard, and now he tells me he needs me in his life and that he loves me so much, and he promises me he's coming back to me on August 19th, but he doesn't want me talking to guys or hanging out with friends he's always been controlling, but I don't think I can take it if were not dating, he cheats on her with me all the time, but I don't know if he's really going to leave her for me, I know he really loves me cause he got my name tattooed on him, but he says he doesn't love her at all, he doesn't get jealous when she talks to other guys, but he can't handle me talking to other guys he says it kills him inside please help! I love him with all my heart, but I don't know if I should wait for him.

[amicon]

Hi real love doesn't want or need to control. I think this sounds like you could do much better.do you need a control freak in your life?all all the bestplease move on.

[talaniman]

And you believe his BS rap?? He didn't care before, but when you talk to others he cares?

Give yourself a break, will you, and not be his fool, who does whatever he says, and are so in love he can control you. How old are you... 12, 13?? He is playing a kids game, and your going for it.

[helpplease2010]

Then what do I do? I want him back I love him, I don't know how to get him back other then waiting but I don't think he loves me like I love him, even though my names tattooed on him, I don't know what to do, I like need step by step directions on how to do this please that's how desperate I am, I feel stuck now, I don't have feelings for other guys like I do for nick, and just when I think finnally that I can move on and I think I deserve better he ends up calling wanting to see me and tells me how much he loves me and I'm put under his spell all over again.

[88sunflower]

So simple, don't take his calls. He is controlling you is his own way. Why is it OK for him to have another girl, but you can't move on? You need to cut this cord now before your with him and its living hell. Besides why would you want to be with him? He is cheating on his girlfriend to be with you. You seriously don't think he won't cheat on you? If he loves you so much then why isn't he with you 100%? Its because he has you both and he is getting away with it.

[helpplease2010]

I know but its not that easy I love him, and when were together its not hell, and before we were together we had a "thing" since the 6th grade and he use to cheat on all his girlfriends with me, but then we dated for a year and 5 months and that was his longest relationship and he got my name tattooed on him, and he would upfront tell me if he cheated on me I know I'm only 17, he knows August 19th is his deadline and if he doesn't break up with her by then I've told him that I'm out of his life forever, but its just so hard to wait not doing anything, his whole thing is he doesn't want to come back to me if I'm y, but he doesn't get that the only reason I'm y is because were not dating, but he still takes me on dates and stuff, I just want him back someone tell me how to do that please!

[88sunflower]

I refuse to tell you how to get him back because your only hurting yourself. You just said he tells you when he cheats on you? Your OK with that? How does it feel your man is making love to another girl and then coming to you and telling you he loves you? I can promise you that's what happening.

[helpplease2010]

No he would tell me if he cheated on me, and he never has please I need him back I love him, we really can work I just need help to get him back, I know the old nick is there

[s_cianci]

No, you shouldn't wait for him. You broke up, I don't know who initiated the breakup, but regardless he immediately started seeing someone else. And he has the nerve to tell you not to talk to or hang out with other guys? Calling him "controlling" is an understatement. He sounds like he has the potential to become an abuser. Avoid him like the plague!

[helpplease2010]

Can someone just tell me how to get him back because I can't change how I feel about him

[helpplease2010]

No he's pretty much got the full package he's everything in the physical department, which I know sounds bad but its really hard to let that body and stuff go, especially when he looks me in the eyes and tells me he loves me, I just want to know how to get him back other than waiting on him that's all

[talaniman]

This is not a blog, or chat room, and this thread is closed. If the OP cannot use the good advice given, then she will have to pay the consequences of being a fool for love.