[petula]

[F][RIGHT][RIGHT]I got married in Dec 08,In my family my husabnd is the only son and ,I have MIL ,FIL & two sis in laws.We have two cousin sis from our village at our home as both of their families are financially poor,we look after them,We give them complete luxury and we do not make any difference with them.. Both of them help my MIL in household work.I have no work to do at home.I am office going women, My elder sil got married in Feb 09,but the big headache and irritating younger real sil is still unmarried staying with us.she is very possessive about my husband , she herself will never talk to him or discuss with him anything ,but suppose if I scold or say anything to my hubby she will start teaching me how to behave with him,(indirectly tonting) ,as if my hubby is very romantic all the time with me even in front of our relatives & In-laws.he has no objection what I am saying to him.It doesn't mean that I insult him in any manner not at all.he always enjoys whether I scold him or make him irritate,Only masti ! But my younger real sil will not bear this .Sometime I feel like staying separate just because of her attitude.whoever favors me , she hate them , she fight with my MIL & FIL.Whenever you look at her she makes faces and think like she is MISS WORLD. I don't want to be away from my family just because of this stupid girl.. In fact I never thought of separating him from his family & I would never do that.. Because I can't be without there affection.. They are really lovable & affectionate, but the only issue is my SIL's possessiveness towards my guy keeps rocking my temper.. . Once we had a big fight, till now after I came in this family ,when my FIL has gone to our native,My temper was very high and I fought with her like anything,in presence of my MIL ,hubby and others .First she made me irritate.Nobody came to make me understand ,although my MIL scolded her and asked to keep quiet.I had warned my in laws about her ,but both of them told me to bear with her for some months till she get marry,she is very much matured,she is 23 yrs old,having boyfriend.She think she can do anything and nobody should point her,& she has right to say anything to anybody anywhere.after this fight I don't know wheteher my FIL knows about this ,He did not said anything to me yet.He may not know anything.Sometimes he take his daughter side might just because she may not feel lonely.what to do.While fighting she said because of me ,she is unhappy,she is not getting love , new dresses ,gifts and support from her parents as they are sharing all this with me.after that fight she was crying for whole night and next day was Sunday and all other family members were watching movie in our bedroom.She got more irritate.while fighting ,She also said that I am only concerened about my hubby ,I cannot see people around me,I don't care for anybody,I don't get mixed up with others,I bang door on her face whenever I see her.If this is true then why others love me. Help.The imp thing is when I came to their house she was only the one who use to look after me very personally,she was caring me like anything,she always wanted to sleep with me,after marriage I was sleeping with her for complete two weeks.My hubby did not say anything at that time ,third week we were out for HM.I think our family members love both of us ,but they cannot select anyone. Helllllllllllllllllllllllp.

[N0help4u]

She needs knocked down a few pegs but not by you.
You need to take your husband aside where nobody can hear and tell him of her rude behavior even when he isn't there and ask him to please tell her that she needs to knock it off.
They need to stick up for themselves and tell her they are tired of her behavior. Nobody is saying anything now so she feels she can get away with it.
She is like the elephant in the room that everybody knows is there and is a problem but nobody wants to admit that it is there.

It shouldn't be about selecting. It should be about sticking up for who is right. Like if you are in the wrong at any time they should feel just as free to tell you about it.

Maybe when you feel the need to ''scold'' your husband you should take it somewhere that she can't hear.

[petula]

Fil ha sgone to our native,she fought with me again.She abused me a lot ,But I did nt spoke out a single word,I really felt like crying,Yesterday truly that was unnecessarily she was abusing in front of our guest(her cousin).wht to do if nobody says anything ,should I raise this question.

[N0help4u]

She sees that it gets to you so she does it just to get a crying, hurt reaction out of you.
What do your mil and fil say?
Like why don't they get on her about it?
It being their house they need to do something.
What country do you live in?
Can you and your husband save money and move?