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randit · Jul 28, 2009, 05:25 AM

I have a neighbor who I have been getting to know for the last 9 months. All along he has shown me how much he likes me without saying it . Now, I called him on his feelings and I said it is obvious that he likes me. He will admit it via text only. It is odd actually. I just spoke to him last night and he made me feel like he only wanted to know me as a friend and that he surely didn't want to give me the wrong impression that he wanted more. I got upset and said I am not doing this roller coaster with my emotions with him and we hung up the phone. Ten minutes later he sends a text that says " I have to be honest I do like you and I want to get to know you better" I am so confused. This guys only seems to say hi to me if his family is not around. I know he likes me because his behavior says it. He is very concerned with my life and goals and always wants to help me with moving or fixing my child's bike and such. He asks me to go work out with him all this week because he said his son is going to be over at his cousin's house this week. Do you think he has someone else? Why the emotional roller coaster? Should I walk away? :confused:

ZoeMarie · Jul 28, 2009, 05:37 AM

OMG. I had to read this because I was talking to my neighbor the other day and she was talking about how her life feels like an emotional roller coaster. I started to read this and thought it was actually her until I got to the last couple lines about moving and fixing kids bikes. My brother has been over at my house since we moved into our house. He comes over all the time, he doesn't live with us though. We've been in the house for about 9 months. My brother has been getting to know the neighbor.

Sorry to go off on a tangent like that. It could be that he's shy. Maybe he felt put on the spot? I take it you like him? Have you told him?

randit · Jul 28, 2009, 05:40 AM

I do like him and he has just told me that he likes me too, but only via text. You don't think he is playing games or being dishonest with me?

ZoeMarie · Jul 28, 2009, 05:46 AM

I personally don't think so. Now that he has admitted he likes you, maybe you could try to talk to him again. Ask him why he would tell you in a text but not when you tried talking to him.

kctiger · Jul 28, 2009, 05:55 AM

Ask him out... it is a two way street. Perhaps he is extremely insecure or afraid of girls. I don't know, but you can take up the pressure and just ask him for a dinner date or something. Some guys are VERY strange to figure out around girls (yours truly being one of them) so reading them and knowing how to proceed with them can be very unclear. I feel that being point blank with him and just taking the first move will be the most obvious way to truly find anything out.

randit · Jul 28, 2009, 06:06 AM

You may have both a point here. I know that he couldn't tell me he liked me until I took the first step and told him that I liked him. After out call last night I felt unimportant to him and like he was just playing games because he kept saying he was already going to the gym and if I wanted to come along it really was not a big deal because he was going to go anyway. That hurt me.

kctiger · Jul 28, 2009, 06:10 AM

I would also caution you as to not getting too attached to him yet. You can't let what he said hurt you. Some guys are have a bit more tact in talking to girls, some don't. It is nothing more than an automatic response from him and I hope you don't read too much into his words. Talk to him face to face, explain that you would like to go on a date, and if he doesn't, done deal. No more texting or calling each other.

I wish · Jul 28, 2009, 06:48 AM

Sounds like he's really shy and doesn't really know what to do when meeting a new woman.

Asking him out will relieve some pressure, but if he's as shy as we think he is, then you're going to have more problems of insecurity in the future. Sounds like you're going to have to be his boyfriend guide if you started a relationship. So just be prepared for that sort of commitement.

randit · Jul 28, 2009, 06:50 AM

You are probably right. After our conversation last night and we hung up on a sour note. He text me back right away to say that he really does like me and want to get to know me.

randit · Jul 28, 2009, 06:51 AM

:)what the heck is a boyfriend guide? HA!

I wish · Jul 28, 2009, 07:00 AM

Originally Posted by randit

:)what the heck is a boyfriend guide?? HA!

I just means that he might not know what to do as a boyfriend and you will have to guide him and tell him what to do and what not to do, because of lack of experience.

It's just my speculation because of how shy he is. So don't hold that against me!

randit · Jul 28, 2009, 07:02 AM

This man was married for 15 years before this. I would hope he knows by now. His ex xheated on him though so maybe he still has some insecurities from that , but it was 8 yrs that he has been divorced now.