[joshinmo]

OK this is going to be hard to some what explain but I thank I might have OCD at times there is nothing that I thank about other then were I when wrong, I have been in a lot of realinshipe and the have all went to the dogs, one thing that is the mane thonght I thank (wish) about is back in 07 I have g/f that I love but was more obsessed about (I thank) that what they told me and I have only whited to be with them and now they eve have a 18 moth old kid with her and have told her I wish I could be with her but she says that she cares and likes me a lot but dose not love me like I love her, I mean she even told me that she told her ex b/f (left him last Nov) that I was the one she has ever had the best sex with ( and she is not the type to lie about anything) and it like with way with a lot of me exes and I wish I could stop it cuss it is hindering my realinship now wish I believe is a real good long lasting one if I could just stop these thought and feelings it would be even better I don't have much time I'm about to go to work (work 2 jobs) but I will post more in detail tonight... Josh [/CENTER][/CENTER]

[jenniepepsi]

You need to clean your post up. Many of us will not understand your post. You need to speak in plain, english words. No slang

From what I understand, you could be a bit obsessed with this girl. I suggest you cut all contact with her, and seek a counselor.



*EDIT* I edited my post due to an offensive word. I did not mean anything by it at all. And I apologies to anyone who was offended.

[N0help4u]

OK this is going to be hard to some what explain, but I thInk I might have OCD. At times there is nothing that I think about other than were I went wrong. I have been in a lot of realinships and the have all went to the dogs. One thing that is the main thougt I think (wish) about is back in 07 I had a g/f that I
Loved but was more obsessed about (I think). That's what they told me and I have only
Wated to be with

Okay here is where it goes to making no sense...
Them and now they have a 18 moth old kid with her and have told her

I wish I could be with her but she says that she cares and likes me a lot but does not love me like I love her. I mean she even told me that she told her ex b/f (left him last Nov) that I was the one she has ever had the best sex with ( and she is not the type to lie about anything). It is that way with a lot of my exes and I wish I could stop it cause it is hindering my realinship now. I wish I believe is a real good long lasting one if I could just stop these thought and feelings it would be even better. I don't have much time. I'm about to go to work (work 2 jobs) but I will post more in detail tonight... Josh
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I think you are saying you loved a girl but she didn't love you and then she got with another guy and had a baby.
She may have had best sex with you but that is not love.
Most people will choose love over sex.
Are you saying you found a good relationship now you should be getting over your ex by now.


You need counseling

[nikosmom]

OP, I think the fact that this girl has moved on says a lot about how she feels about your relationship. She is with a new man and they have a child together. As Nohelp said, sex does not necessarily equal love.

Unfortunately this is something that happens in relationships- they end and the person who loved more is torn and wants to figure out a way to rekindle things.

If she wants to give it another go with you she would make the effort to do so. Don't be the one to try to break up a family. I agree that counseling is in order so that you can focus on your own wellbeing and no longer obsess over her.

I don't know if this post should necessarily be under Addictions; perhaps Relationships? Mods? :confused:

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Jennie: I vehemently disagree with your use of the term ebonics just because the OP isn't a great speller. There are some teens that come here and post in text/chat talk to be "cool" and then there are some where you can tell that the OP is earnestly trying to make their question plain. Some people aren't great spellers and we should not criticize when we see they are making an effort. I found your post to be very racially offensive.

[joshinmo]

ok this is going to be hard to some what explain, but I thInk I might have OCD. At times there is nothing that I think about other than were I went wrong. I have been in a lot of realinships and the have all went to the dogs. One thing that is the main thougt I think (wish) about is back in 07 I had a g/f that I
loved but was more obsessed about (i think). Thats what they told me and I have only
wated to be with

Okay here is where it goes to making no sense.....
them and now they have a 18 moth old kid with her and have told her

I wish I could be with her but she says that she cares and likes me a lot but does not love me like i love her. I mean she even told me that she told her ex b/f (left him last Nov) that I was the one she has ever had the best sex with ( and she is not the type to lie about anything). It is that way with a lot of my exes and I wish I could stop it cause it is hindering my realinship now. I wish I belive is a real good long lasting one if I could just stop these thought and feelings it would be even better. I dont have much time. I'm about to go to work (work 2 jobs) but i will post more in detail tonight ......Josh

I think you are saying you loved a girl but she didn't love you and then she got with another

guy and had a baby.
She may have had best sex with you but that is not love.
Most people will choose love over sex.
Are you saying you found a good relationship now you should be getting over your ex by now.


You need counseling

No she had my baby and the guy was jelus of me because of what she had said about me

[Justwantfair]

I am going to suggest therapy as well, whenever you feel obsessed with a person or thought then it will require more than yourself alone to help you find some balance.

Group therapy or individual therapy maybe very beneficial along with building up yourself esteem.

Are you taking care of your child?

[joshinmo]

She left him cue he was jelus of me and it's my baby not his and she wants met to be in my sons life but it's hard knowing I still love her

[Justwantfair]

If you can't disconnect from the relationship for the sake of your child then you really need to think about therapy soon. Your child is going to need a father in his life.

[JudyKayTee]

She left him cue he was jelus of me and it's my baby not his and she wants met to be in my sons life but it's hard knowing I still love her

Are you paying support for your child? Do you visit with the child?

I'm the biggest romantic in the World. Sex and love are not the same thing - but I do agree that sometimes when the sex is great it's difficult to realize that the relationship is either bad or going nowhere.

Relationships/loves come and go (unfortunately). That baby is forever and THAT should be what you are obsessing about.

Almost everyone has a story about "the one that got away." Maybe she's the one who got away from you - but the baby is here to stay.

I am having trouble reading what you have written - "she left him CUE ..." ?

[N0help4u]

You need to work something out so you can see your kid without it bringing out old feelings. If she isn't wanting you back then you obsessing is getting you NO where.
You need to get to the root of why you can't get over things and learn techniques to help you not be so obsessive.
So counseling is the best thing for you right now.

[Fr_Chuck]

Please use real english, slang and text speech is against the rules.

One poster tried to tell you, I will close the thread if you continue.