Let's do not caught up by the idea of getting married, but focus on the goal of the marriage.
Your boyfriend is not crazy about proposing now, and has a lot of thoughts & pressure in his mind. It is a very good sign because he is taking it seriously. It is frustrating for you, because you are not getting the big green light as you wanted. The love is solid between you and your boyfriend, and you do not have to ruin it by pressuring him.
The smart thing to do now is, give him more time, and wait until he propose you with FULL HEART. I understand about your job situation, but have plan A & B as a smart career woman. If he knows you have plan B, he will be less pressured, and make a decision based on his heart not by the situation. Be careful not to give him further pressure. He clearly knows your job situation. With little more patience, you will get better result.
When my husband proposed me, I was not in a situation to get married. I was in Europe M-F every week while we were living in east coast, and I wanted to get married in Puerto Rico, our favorite vacation place & perfect place for topical wedding. He ended up being a wedding coordinator due to my crazy work & the complicated international marriage law, but happily managed the whole wedding & honeymoon. What I am trying to say is when a man has a heart, he will do anything for you beyond your expectation. What you have to do is make him crazy about to propose you. You cannot make him crazy by pressuring him...
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