[tanyaa]

I'm a shy person and like every person I've problems too bt I can't share everything with anybody... I try to find people whom I can share my probs bt all the time I found.. they will not going to understand me... its not for my shyness.. I dn feel anyone that close.. im 22 n I've faced so many probs alone...
My very secret mental prob is my bodys skin is not good specially my hip is dark and ve strech marks although my face skin isn't bad and my face isn't bad looking... all the tym I feel depressed about my body that wats is going to feel when my partner is gonaa see my body specially my hip part.. btw I'm in a reationship... I told my boyfriend my body is nt good and I got strached marks on my hip... bt I can't manage to say about the darness... im feeling very deepressed what can I do?I feel if he ll going to hates my body.. how ll I manage myself?

[Jake2008]

I personally don't know a woman who is 100% happy with her body.

Why are you so focused on your 'flaw', and why would you think this would make your boyfriend dislike you?

If you are striving for perfection, it will never happen.

As to your other problems on a personal nature, you didn't say anything about that, and the chat speak is hard to follow.

What is it that makes you depressed, other than not having a perfect body.

[manishpowar]

You have basically Two fears: others will not accept me as I am and if they don't then how will I deal with the rejection. Though biggest fear is that you believe that no one will accept you.

The question is are you willing to accept yourself?
Think about that for a change.

[Gemini54]

I think that you need to get some counseling.

Being so focused on a minor flaw is not healthy or normal. There are people that have massive physical disfigurement or disabilities, yet they can accept them and get on with their lives - why can't you?

I'm also troubled by the fact that you want friends so that you can tell them your problems - most people like friends that are happy and make them feel good. Perhaps if you demonstrated more interest in them rather than telling them your problems you'd have more people that want to be with you and like you.

You need to get some professional help so that you can work through these self hatred issues. If you hate yourself and your body, how can you expect anyone else to like you?

[tanyaa]

Thanks all for the suggestions:)

[Clough]

Hi, tanyaa!

So, how is it going now for you, please?

Thanks!