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Torrid13 · Jul 23, 2009, 06:18 PM

A GLOATING PARTY?

I LOVE GLOATING PARTIES!

I refuse to hold my breath as well, but I'm sure not leaving out the chips and dip...

N0help4u · Jul 23, 2009, 06:19 PM

OP can bring the dip and I'll bring the chips

Torrid13 · Jul 23, 2009, 06:20 PM

And I'll bring the punch!

reckless · Jul 24, 2009, 06:01 AM

Every piece is laid out. My best friend's girlfriend is now on my side. She's going to tell my ex that she and my best friend got in a fight, but it only made their relationship stronger. This is not a battle of convincing, it is of suggesting.

I have another plan to add to the cashew plan. I've got 3 heart shaped shells from the beach. I'll ask her to choose one for herself, one for her friend, and I'll keep the last one to myself. Then I'll tell her no matter which one she would have chosen, I would have given her this one in addition. The additional one is a heart shaped green rock. She likes emeralds and she likes the color green, so I find it fitting.

During the movie I make 0 moves unless I'm feeling it or they are welcomed. This will surprise her, as she might be waiting for the opportunity to say something like, "I thought we were supposed to be going as friends."

Here is the order of my plan
1. cashew plan
2.watch movie/joke about movie/have fun
3. after the movie do shell plan
4. speech plan.

The speech plan will appeal to her emotions and not to her logic. I will not try to justify my actions or apologize. I'll tell her that she makes me happy, that I won't pick silly fights with her, that I'll treat her friend with respect, and that I won't do PDA in front of her friend.

I will NOT ask her to get back with me. This is key because women hate to be forced. During the whole time I will take on a light-hearted mood.

Does anyone see any flaws in my plan, besides the fact that I'm trying to get back with her? N0help4u is absolutely right, that I won't change my mind on that.

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 06:04 AM

Originally Posted by reckless

every piece is laid out. my best friend's girlfriend is now on my side. she's going to tell my ex that she and my best friend got in a fight, but it only made their relationship stronger. this is not a battle of convincing, it is of suggesting.

i have another plan to add to the cashew plan. i've got 3 heart shaped shells from the beach. i'll ask her to choose one for herself, one for her friend, and i'll keep the last one to myself. then i'll tell her no matter which one she would have chosen, i would have given her this one in addition. the additional one is a heart shaped green rock. she likes emeralds and she likes the color green, so i find it fitting.

during the movie i make 0 moves unless i'm feeling it or they are welcomed. this will surprise her, as she might be waiting for the opportunity to say something like, "I thought we were supposed to be going as friends."

here is the order of my plan
1. cashew plan
2.watch movie/joke about movie/have fun
3. after the movie do shell plan
4. speech plan.

the speech plan will appeal to her emotions and not to her logic. i will not try to justify my actions or apologize. i'll tell her that she makes me happy, that i won't pick silly fights with her, that i'll treat her friend with respect, and that i wont do PDA in front of her friend.

i will NOT ask her to get back with me. this is key because women hate to be forced. during the whole time i will take on a light-hearted mood.

does anyone see any flaws in my plan, besides the fact that i'm trying to get back with her? N0help4u is absolutely right, that I won't change my mind on that.

Sounds like you are living in a fairy tale land my friend. If you know so much about women then I don't see how you are broken up in the first place. Perhaps I need to come to you for guidance on the females, as you seem to have it figured out.

Just one question: What do you do if NONE of this works out? Hollywood won't solve all our problems.

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 06:06 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

. Perhaps I need to come to you for guidance on the females, as you seem to have it figured out.
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IF 'n when he has his gloating party we will make sure you are there to ask for guidance:D

reckless · Jul 24, 2009, 06:09 AM

If none of this works out, it is clear that I am screwed. I live my life until her friend leaves and she gets lonely and wants me back. I call her 0 times and do absolutely nothing. I date other girls etc.

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 06:12 AM

You aren't screwed if it doesn't work out, but at least you have an answer. Thus, life moves on.

I was rejected by a few girls in the past week, both of whom I liked a lot (obviously wasn't in love with them, so I feel you on that). One of those girls was actually taken by my best friend, so it is life... it moves on, with or without you, fun or not. We just deal with it!

Have fun man, the worries are for those who do well worrying. I don't do that, so I try not to. Enjoyment gets me farther than sadness.

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 06:12 AM

Like I said as long as you are happy with being in the backseat every time she lays down the law of how she wants it.

reckless · Jul 24, 2009, 06:16 AM

Well my answer is the same thing that got her back the first time. I know that desperation does not bring victory. When I asked her why she called after the first time she broke up with me, she said, "because i thought you were over me." the same concept applies here, but I have a golden opportunity that I intend to take advantage of.

When she got back with me she told me that life without me made her feel helpless, and that she loved me. That same helpless feeling will ensue again when I am gone and her friend leaves.

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 06:18 AM

So you are happy being her Plan B option? Do you ever value yourself? It sounds like you are trumping yourself up as her end all be all! I almost think you need to get over yourself and quit trying to use her weakness as a way to get back into her life... what happens when her friend comes back?

reckless · Jul 24, 2009, 06:22 AM

How she wants it is actually reasonable. I said "f**k you" to her best friend. A little over the top? I think so. In addition to that, I got in a fight with her best friend.

Her best friend is the one to blame, not her. She said that my girlfriend could have picked up the phone if she wanted to talk to me, but on the contrary, my girlfriend told me herself that she was upstairs during the whole conversation. She didn't even know that I had called. She didn't tell me that until after we had fought beyond forgiveness.

Her best friend was playing games with me and making it look like my girlfriend was ignoring me on the last day before my vacation. That was what made me so angry and fight so hard with her. I was the one who wanted to break up with her over it, but I didn't know her best friend was lying to me.

It's because her best friend is jealous and has never had a boyfriend. She didn't like me the first time she met me, and still doesn't like me now. The reason she hasn't is because she's a straight up (fill in the blank.)

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 06:26 AM

So basically you are saying that your girlfriend didn't break up with you in any sense of the word but she is trying to keep the two of you apart because you do not get along with each other but when her friend leaves everything will be back to peaches and cream.

We are preparing for your gloating party
So far we have dips and chips and punch
kctiger you want to pitch in the pizza?
I like mine plain extra cheese

Romefalls19 · Jul 24, 2009, 09:06 AM

I want in on this party. I see it being an "I told you so" party to be honest. I'll bring some tacos? Or perhaps another pizza

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 09:09 AM

I love a GOOD taco pizza IF it is made right.

liz28 · Jul 24, 2009, 09:36 AM

Okay so your blaming the best friend. It is everyone fault except your girlfrien? Nice!

I wonder what will happen the next time the friend comes to town--if the two of you are still together.

slapshot_oi · Jul 24, 2009, 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by reckless

here is the order of my plan
1. cashew plan
2.watch movie/joke about movie/have fun
3. after the movie do shell plan
4. speech plan.

does anyone see any flaws in my plan, besides the fact that i'm trying to get back with her?

I see a big flaw, this is silly. I started to write another sarcastic response giving you bad suggestions, but I couldn't post it, I think I feel bad for you.

A cashew plan? Seriously man, get a grip.

She is going to laugh at you, and once her friend finds out about this, forget it, she'll rip you to shreds. I hope you've prepared for the humiliation.

Torrid13 · Jul 24, 2009, 09:50 AM

Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

I see a big flaw, this is silly. I started to write another sarcastic response giving you bad suggestions, but I couldn't post it, I think I feel bad for you.

A cashew plan? Seriously man, get a grip.

She is going to laugh at you, and once her friend finds out about this, forget it, she'll rip you to shreds. I hope you've prepared for the humiliation.

He's ready for anything! He has chips, dip, and punch!

Romefalls19 · Jul 24, 2009, 10:27 AM

I've never once went into a date with a full plan. My plan for every date, have fun and enjoy myself.

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 10:44 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I've never once went into a date with a full plan. My plan for every date, have fun and enjoy myself.

I didn't want to get into it too much BUT
I think THAT is precisely his problem
HE plans things out, tries to fit things into his logic, is more precise and this is how life works view of life, is more ridgid in his thinking and is basically that type personality whereas his girlfriend is probably more free spirited and spur of the moment.