What if it's not what I want?

shelbybelle13 · Jul 23, 2009, 09:25 PM

Threads merged and moved.

OK so what if your dating a 16 year old and your olny 13?and he wants to do things your not ready for.. but your in love with him?and you don't feel like you have a choice?:(

OK so I'm dating a 16 year but this week I was in powell spending time with one of my guy friends and I think I might like my cousin was txting him and I looked at the text messages and found out he likes me to and I'm 13 and he is also... but I really like the 16 year old that I've been dateing...

N0help4u · Jul 24, 2009, 05:24 AM

YOU GET OUT of the relationship
You NEVER do something you feel pressured into. If he can not respect you then he is not right for you.

Tell him you are jail bait because you are only 13.

There are plenty of guys you will fall for through the years and then you will wish you hadn't given into your lust for him.
You aren't IN love, you are in love with the idea of being with the eye candy.

Find somebody in your league that respects you. He is too fast paced for you.

JudyKayTee · Jul 24, 2009, 12:21 PM

So what is the question AND why are you posting on the adult board and not the teen board?

I have read your other posts - interesting background if anyone has the time and energy to read your answers.

When is school back in session again?

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 12:24 PM

School should be year around judging by the lack of thought and common sense that goes into Shelby's answers... I immediately feel dumber by reading her posts.

Carry on fellow adults... :cool:

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:25 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

So what is the question AND why are you posting on the adult board and not the teen board?

I have read your other posts - interesting background if anyone has the time and energy to read your answers.

When is school back in session again?

well I don't know and why would I need to know when school starts back I'm getting home schooled and what do you mean by that?

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 12:26 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

well idk and y would i need to know when school starts back i'm getting home schooled and what do u mean by that?

She means the home school isn't working. Where is your common sense?

To answer your question, you are 13... I am NO parent but I would suggest you back away from dating anyone at your age, especially a 16 year old. I know my hypothetical daughter would be nowhere near a 16 year old at that age. Guys suck, believe me, I am one. At that age (13) just enjoy being friends with as many people as possible, but don't limit yourself to "dating" guys... we ordinarily aren't worth it.

Justwantfair · Jul 24, 2009, 12:26 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

well idk and y would i need to know when school starts back i'm getting home schooled and what do u mean by that?

We don't allow text talk here, please complete your words.

I don't know - I don't know
Y - why
U - you

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:28 PM

Well you kow where I'm from adults are like friends to us NOT evil people that want to make fun of you... ever went 2 church.. well maybe it's time!!

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

well you kow where i'm from adults are like friends to us NOT evil ppl that want to make fun of you...ever went 2 church..well maybe it's time!!!!!!

Have you ever been to a church that calls gay people "fags"? I haven't... swallow your own words young one. Read my above advice for your situation. Enjoy life, dating complicates things, so don't date just yet. ENJOY!!

Carry on... :cool:

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

She means the home school isn't working. Where is your common sense?

To answer your question, you are 13...I am NO parent but I would suggest you back away from dating anyone at your age, especially a 16 year old. I know my hypothetical daughter would be nowhere near a 16 year old at that age. Guys suck, believe me, I am one. At that age (13) just enjoy being friends with as many people as possible, but don't limit yourself to "dating" guys...we ordinarily aren't worth it.

umm I'm just starting home school this year last year and all the years before I went to public school I'm not stupid.. I'm a higher class than all my friends are...

ANB428 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:34 PM

Again, text talk is NOT allowed on this site.

If you don't want to hear what adults who actually act like adults and parents, then DON'T post in the Adult board.

Adults are supposed to set an example and set rules and regulations for teens, not be their friends. And just because adults are being adults, and you don't like what they have to say, doesn't make them evil. Plus I am sure that a lot of these adults on this board probably go to church already!

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 12:35 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

umm i'm just starting home school this year last year and all the years before i went to public school i'm not stupid..i'm a higher class than all my friends are...

Did you read any of my advice?

liz28 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:36 PM

So your unsure who you want to be with--your cousin (did I read correctly) or the 16 year old? What does your mother say?

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:36 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Have you ever been to a church that calls gay people "fags"? I haven't...swallow your own words young one. Read my above advice for your situation. Enjoy life, dating complicates things, so don't date just yet. ENJOY!!!

Carry on...:cool:

well my dad built the church so I go everyday we have it.. and I'm allowed to date I already have plenty of times I just don't know what 2 do...

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by liz28

So your unsure who you want to be with--your cousin (did I read correctly) or the 16 year old? What does your mother say?

No it's my cousin was txting a guy I like and he likes me back but I also like the 16 yr. old

kctiger · Jul 24, 2009, 12:37 PM

Well as a 13 year old I would advise you AGAINST dating a 16 year old. You are young and impressionable... stick to your age group if you are going to date. Again, just my opinion as I know you will do what you want.

ANB428 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:40 PM

Well, my advice is to date someone your own age, just as kc suggested. He already told you that boys at the age of 16 only think with a certain head and it isn't the one on their shoulders! You are too young to be dating in my opinion, espically if you are asking if you should date someone your own age that likes you and you like them, or if you should date someone who is 3 years older than you and more experienced than you.

shelbybelle13 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:40 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Did you read any of my advice?

yes and I've went on my first date when I was only 12 yrs. Old my dad said it was OK and yes it was a real date because our parents we not there

Wondergirl · Jul 24, 2009, 12:40 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

well as a matter of fact my dad built the church so i go everyday we have it..and i'm allowed to date i already have plenty of times i just dnt know what 2 do...

Please write in complete sentences, and use correct grammar, punctuation, and spelling.

So what if your dad built the church? You go every day (That's two words, not one.) and you use the word "fag"?

ANB428 · Jul 24, 2009, 12:42 PM

Originally Posted by shelbybelle13

yes and as a matter of fact i've went on my first date when i was only 12 yrs. old my dad said it was ok and yes it was a real date because our parents we not there

He is not telling you NOT to date. We already know that your parents allow you to date at 13! You have said that over and over.