[Elza123]

My best friend asked me out and I said yes but then a realized that it wasn't working so I told him that I really preferred it as friends and then he took it real bad then he started saying things like well since we have been going out you have been flirting with this your boy but I wasn't and then he just said I was dumped and now I think that we are not going to be good friends never again and I don't know how to get it back on track please anyone got any ideas ?
Elza123

[I wish]

This is why many people don't want to cross the line from friendship to boyfriend/girlfriend.

Give him time to recover from the breakup before pushing a friendship. If you were meant to be friends, you will find each other again. So leave him alone until he recovers from the breakup.

[s_cianci]

Unfortunately you can never be "friends" with someone after you've dated. You see, they wanted to date you, they didn't just want to be your "friend." So after having gotten a teasing taste of what they wanted they're not going to fall back on anything less. I'm sorry but I think your friendship with this person is over. You can try talking to him but don't expect miracles.

[N0help4u]

Why I always tell kids under 18 appreciate your friends as friends once you start dating and break up you may lose that friendship.

He feels rejected and often when guys feel rejected by girls they end up saying hurtful things and things to make them feel better by putting you down... like you were flirting. It somehow eases their ego or something.

He had his hopes up and as S_ciani said it is hard to go backwards when you had something you really cared about.
He can't be friends because it hurts too much.

[Romefalls19]

I disagree with the statement of you never being able to be friends with someone after the relationship ends. I have many friends that were girlfriends at one point, after the dust settled it was able to be rebuilt.

To the OP, you need to give it time, don't force things and just wait it out.

[Alty]

I agree with Rome.

Give it some time. You sound really young, I'm sure things will smooth over if you just give him some space.

I'm friends with a lot of my exes, it can happen.

Good luck.

[BlackVY]

I guess the dream is to maybe take your relationship with your best friend to the next level, since you both already have the connection and comfort level to be yourselves around each other, but it can't be forced, and it has to be mutual.

Problems happen if one side forces the issue, and the other resists, everything is lost and will be next to impossible to salvage even a real friendship.

[Romefalls19]

I agree N0help4u, it took 4 years for me to finally speak to my first heartbreak. She cheated on me and left me the way I am today(insecure and jealous) with how she was screwing with my head

[Chey5782]

Ex's are ex's for a reason. If you want to go back to being friends you BOTH are going to have to want that. If he still wants you it's going to make it harder on him to be around you as a friend. But it is possible. Just be patient with him, he didn't want to stop being your boyfriend in the first place, so if you want to be friends only you are going to have to listen like friends do. That's a consequence of learning about love, the good and the bad stuff that comes with it. I'm still friends with most of my ex's, but not all of them. You both have to want to be, and it sounds like he is still too hurt to see you date someone else.

Give it some time, but don't be all wishy washy about it. Don't give him false hope, don't play with his head, be clear. You can only do what you can about it, and leave the rest up to him.

[friend4u178]

It just takes time , his Ego and self esteem have been bruised so he is in defensive mode.

[talaniman]

Leave him alone to work out his rejection and disappointment his own way. Maybe he will want to be friends again later, maybe NOT. Its up to him, and you have to accept whatever decision he makes.