[DM79]

I met my ex about 2 months ago. We only dated for a month, but I don't seem to get her out of my mind. Everything got too deep too quick. We were, of what we thought, in love within 2 weeks into the relationship. We were seeing each other everyday. However, I felt a little suffocated, since she has a 6 year old son, and we couldn't do much, because she would have to stay home, watching her kid. I wouldn't hang out with my friends as much as I'd like, and that bothered me some. But I liked what I was doing, because I was with her. At some point, I noticed she was a little distant, so I asked her to rate our relationship. She was very irritated by that, and asked me to stop, I insisted in the question a few times, then I dropped it. After that happened, she was even more distant, so a day after my birthday, we finally broke up, which was a month ago. I tried to get back together with her, put myself out there, she said she missed miss, and she liked me a lot, but the fact I asked her to "rate our relationship" turned her off. I asked, because I knew she wasn't that into it anymore, and I just wanted to know where she was standing. Today, she told me there there is a guy from her past, that cheated on her, that's been trying to get back together with her, and she was having mixed feelings about him. She told me about this guy right before she started to act weird, but never that there was any feelings at all. And now, all comes together. I think that the reason we broke up, was because she never got over this guy, and I picked up on that. We had a huge fight, via text message, and I told her I never want to see or talk to her ever again, that she was dead to me.
But I can't get her out of my mind, and it hurts so much... What do I do??

[MissTaurus]

I think just about everyone on this site knows where you are coming from. It's extremely hard to get over someone you thought was the one at first but it's not impossible. Start with building your life back up again and doing things for yourself that make you happy. Take up some new hobbies, spend time with friends or family that you haven't seen in a while. It's a great idea to surround yourself with people after a break up, so go out there and meet new people. Overtime you will eventually find yourself thinking about her less and less until you completely forget about her. Just be patient with yourself. Time always seems to heal everything. Hope this helps! Good luck!

[slapshot_oi]

I met my ex about 2 months ago. We only dated for a month, but i don't seem to get her out of my mind. Everything got too deep too quick. We were, of what we thought, in love within 2 weeks into the relationship. We were seeing each other everyday...and now, all comes together. I think that the reason we broke up, was because she never got over this guy, and i picked up on that. We had a huge fight, via text message, and i told her i never want to see or talk to her ever again, that she was dead to me.
But i can't get her out of my mind, and it hurts so much.....What do i do????

You nailed it, your situation sounds like a rebound relationship to me, those never work out.

Do what you said and act as if she's dead.

[Gemini54]

I'm a bit concerned that you got so clingy in a relationship that wasn't even a month old.

Yes, I agree it was too much too soon - even you can see that. Ask yourself why you feel the need to be so excessive in a relationship? - 'in love' after 2 weeks, demanding 'ratings' for the relationship (after 3 weeks I assume) and then declaring that she's dead to you when she lets you know that she's been thinking about someone else. And, now you 'can't get over it'.

It's all a bit over the top don't you think?

I'd suggest that you need to stand back and get some perspective - have a think about why you behave this way... it's not emotionally healthy for you or for your prospective partners.

You'll only doom yourself to continued disappointment in relationships if you don't change the way that you respond.

[roxypox]

Had to spread the rep Gemini! But well said and I agree!

I'm glad you see that it was too much, too fast. But like Gemini said; you should take a step back and think about how it became this way...

Also its not that strange that you're not over her by now, although your relationship only lasted for a month. From your post it seems that you did spend a lot of time together and got involved too quickly and now you'll just have to use time and effort to get over her.

Besides its never cool to walk into something and then find out that there are circumstances that you weren't aware of, but of course the two of you hadn't been together that long and sometimes this type of information does take a while to surface.

It does seem like this was a rebound relationship on her part and like someone already mentioned; does never work. She wasn't emotionally available to you.

[slapshot_oi]

Just a thought, I've come to believe everyone has their own magic number to get over someone that they really like or love. For me, it's nine months +/- a couple weeks, whether I dated a girl for two years or two months, it's always the same time frame.

It seems like a long time and it is, thinking about the same person every night for months gets old and aggravating. But, it has taught me to be more careful, and as Gemini54 has pointed out, so should you.