[winding200]

[I have questions about cheaters in general. I know people here are not belong to the category. However I am trying to hear insights to debate. ]

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Why do all cheaters cry and beg after cheat?
Is it because he cannot leave the #1 girl even though they cheated?
Are they hurt when they are rejected by any of the girls he slept with?
Or are they simply very emotional and weak to go beyond temptation or breakup?
(I will not do anything which will make me cry and beg to someone. I have integrity. Not my type.) Anybody?
Are guys can sleep around but still have a strong heart for one among the girls?
What are they thinking at the moment they cheat on their girl friends back?
Is meaningless cheat really exists as guy's beer talk?

I hope I can hear some straight answers somehow... Thanks for your help in advance.

[justcurious55]

This is all my opinion. But, imo, people that cheat are very selfish and self-centered. And cry not out of remorse for cheating but because they got caught doing it.
Rejections hard, it hurts most people.
Unfortunately, not everyone has integrity.
My family always made jokes about guys thinking too much with their "small brain." I would imagine a guy that's cheating is not thinking very much at all, and certainly not about what his girlfriend would feel like if she found out.

[winding200]

OK. I just Google searched, and found out something. (I am studying cheating now.. ha ha ha)

There are 3 stages in LOVE, and it has to say something about it as well.

1. Romantic love or lust:. It's driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of relationship, endorphins soak your brain and you're immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. You feel exhilarated, "high", and infactuated in this stage.

2. Physical attraction & power struggles:(the lovesick phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You're also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you're becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether to buy organic food. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infactuation fade.

3. Emotional attachment & unconditional acceptance:. It involves commitment & partnership (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of relationship, you're aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you've decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you're authentic and honest, it'll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits.

So, normal & healthy people can ruin their relationship by cheating just before "stage 3" due to the "fear of intimacy" unconsciously, huh? [B]Very interesting theory![/B]

[I wish]

There are so many reasons for someone to cheat. We can make an endless list.

1) Testing the waters while having a backup.
2) Significant other doesn't completely us or satisfy us.
3) Greed
4) Already accepted that the previous relationship is over, but hanging on for the sake of hanging on.
5) Hanging on to previous relationship as a safety net.
6) Just for the fun of it.
7) Spur of the moment.
8) Drunken experience
9) One night stand
10) Cheating out of anger towards significant other
11) etc. etc.

The list can go on forever.

Begging and crying is out of guilt. But some might argue that the begging and crying could be fake/fabricated because of repeated cheating.

The bottom line is, after a person cheats, can you accept their apology and do you think they will make the effort to regain your trust or sufficient progress over time. If they can't, then bye bye.

[slapshot_oi]

I cheated when I just didn't give a damn. I've been cheated on when I just didn't give a damn, there seems to be a parttern.

I did read somewhere that cheating, at least with women, is usually the result of an emotional disconnect, rarely is it physical. A person knows when the chemistry is gone.

And, those who beg and cry just want to show you their vulnerable side to offset their insensitivity, and once you give in and take 'em back, it's gone as quickly as it came. Rinse and repeat.

[winding200]

Hi guys,
I found another great article.

Only a man can keep a man faithful, not a woman and her ways. A man must posses certain traits to be faithful. But, before he can ever be concerned with these traits, he must respect a woman and then respect himself. A man must have integrity, loyalty, and courage.

I think it is a good summary as well.


What Keeps a Man Faithful

[liz28]

Guys cheat and girls cheat--it been going on for years.

Some people cheat and really do reform. They become remorseful and, believe or not, never cheated on their mate again.

However, you have come people that just cheats and cheats. They have no conscience nor respect for their mate. This is when the "once a cheater always a cheater" comes into play.

But the thing I don't get is "why do people stay with a cheater to only cry about their cheating ways?" They are only harming themselvea emotionally and then you can start to see it physically. They need to realize they deserve better and stop waiting around for their partner to change.

[anewday]

I've cheated, and been cheated on.
Why did I cheat? Becaise I was drunk, and the relationship was dying out as I'd just started college and was miles away from her. We were both too young to commit, and cheating was my way of showing myself that. I never told her, but left her a week later. I couldn't face hurting her.

I was cheated on, and she broke down in tears when I found out. She begged & pleaded. We stayed together, but although I wasn't extremely jealous or over-protective, and wanted the relationship to work, it just didn't.

People can cheat for many reasons. I'd never do it again, as I know how much pain it causes. I'd rather stop my primal urges and engage my brain to analyse why I'm so close to cheating. If someone cheated on me, and we couldn't communicate to fix why they did it? Then it's the end of the road, no question.

[57373]

Why do criminals cry when they get sentenced to jail?

Same thing

Why do kids who drop the ice cream cry?

Being caught,shamed,etc.

Nothing really to do with love.