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    Jilldalil Posts: 16, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 15, 2009, 01:32 PM
    One nighter or not?
    I have had a crush on a guy for a very long time and I went home with him one night and "it" happened. I have never done anything like that ever. I know that is probably what every girl says but the fact is I haven't. He called me for a movie date, I am just wondering if anything can come out of this relationship wise since I already did "it" with him the first time we met up.
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    Jul 15, 2009, 01:37 PM
    Well at least he invited you out to a movie as opposed to his place again for a repeat. What I mean is that maybe he doesn't think you are a one night stand after all?

    I would go out with him and say something to the effect that you lost control the other night and you are not that type of girl. You would like to get to know him better and try together to resist the urge to do this again. Try to get your point across that you think of him more than just sex, and hopefully he does as well.
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    Jul 15, 2009, 03:11 PM
    It's not the worst thing that can happen. But you definitely want to slow things down with him.

    No more physical stuff until you've gotten comfortable with each other. Spend some time talking and getting to know each other.

    If he forces you to do something that you are uncomfortable with, then you can show him the door. But if he's interested in you, he will respect your wishes and go at a pace that you're comfortable with.
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    Jul 15, 2009, 03:41 PM

    Yeah, it's not a big deal. You can't change it, you can adjust the future and stop the physical stuff until you are more comfortable with yourself and the relationship
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    Jul 15, 2009, 09:28 PM

    He asked you for a movie date, so I'm thinking he doesn't see you as just a "one night stand" affair. But like the others mentioned, make sure you let him know you want to slow things down.

    If you don't slow things down in the beginning, you'll be putting a lot of pressure on yourself that shouldn't be there, and definitely giving the wrong message.

    But I think everything will work out fine!
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    Jul 15, 2009, 11:21 PM
    I wouldn't say anything to him just now - just take it slow and easy from now on.

    If he pushes you for 'it' just let him know that you'd like to get to know him a bit more before you go home with him again.
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