[clippers]

Edited for the worse spelling ever.
So...
There's this girl I worked with, and we were good friends for a few months, but then I went away for a few weeks, and we text everyday about 10 times a day,(international texts cost a lot, but it was worth it) and we talked, and got to know each other really well over those weeks, there was definitely something there. On one of the last days I was away she texts me and asked me if I wanted to go round hers with her best friend and stay the night.
Of course I said yes, this girl is really beautiful.:D
But I knew she had a boyfriend whom she had been with for about a year and a bit. So I casually asked how he was, and she said the were "on a break" kind of thing.
So I went to hers when I got back, and had a great time. Then for the whole night we made out. I stayed the next night as well.
After a few days we were "seeing each other". This carried on for about a month and then it got more serious, she said she loved me and is sounded sincere. But then it came clear she missed her "ex", she text him about 20 times a day and was reluctant to change her Facebook relationship status (she eventually changed it to single, which kind of hurt haha) she even confessed to me that she still loves him even though he cheated on him and got the girl pregnant, (this guys a native by the way)
Things slowed down, I didn't see her for about a week, she obviously blocked me on msn, she claimed she was busy with school and work but she obviously wasn't.
After about a week, she said she needs me to leave her alone for a while and she needs time to think about what she wants.
I tried to leave her alone, but well I was sure if I did she would go back to him. I tried texting her a few times, and I emailed her once I think.
I saw her at work and she completely ignored me.
She then blocked me on Facebook, and she changed her status to in a relationship with him. She later talked to me on msn saying, she's not properly back with him at all, but she wants me to leave her alone, so I did for about 2 months. (longest 2 months of my life)
At work it was a bit weird she ignored me all the time.
After 2 months I added her on Facebook again and she accepted, she said she wanted to be friends, so I wrote something about accepting a "FRIEND request"
She was still apparently still in a relationship with him.
A few weeks later I made a new msn address, and copied all my contacts over form my old one, and she accepted the new email. (whether she knew it was me or not I don't know)
But she was incredibly friendly, talked to me like we used to talk. She asked me about what she should wear tonight, and trusted me to get changed with the web cam on(I'm a gentleman guys :D I didn't watch).
So she went out, and I text that night, and we talked all night really, came closer to how we were before. She apologized about how she was before. I went to sleep.
The next morning her Facebook status said single.
We talked some more, got closer once more. I had to work so I couldn't talk to her for a few hours, so when I got home her Facebook status said in a relationship with him again, and she blocked me on msn.
And now she's completely ignoring me again. And I can't talk to her at work because she got fired.

I really want her back, I love her, and it seems her and her boyfriend are having problems. And it seems she may still have feelings for me(in the texts it sure seemed that way)
Is there anything I can do to get her back?
Her boyfriend is a cheating and a real tool.
She told me they were some trust issues between her and him, but they've been together for like a year and a half.
She isn't like the other girls Ive dated, I really like her.
Please help me, whenever her and her boyfriend break up or have problems she always seems to come back to me with the same affections she showed me when we were something.
Id do anything to get her back, id be willing to wait as long as needed because she is really special.
Were still friends on Facebook, so she's not completely ignoring me.
You want to know anything else ask me.
Help please?

[N0help4u]

You love the part of her that she let you see.
Now you are seeing the ugly side of her.

You can't make her love you, you can't make her come back to you.

She used you for a good time and now she is done with her break and returned to her reality... you lived out her fantasy break from reality.

All you really can do is confront her face to face and tell her how low down it was of her to get you involved only to dump you. She might say she told you they were only on break but only on break for a lot of couples DOES mean they aren't getting back together. Tell her fine she chose going back to a cheater over you that is her problem.

All you can do is chalk this up to lesson learned.

*Also quit trying to talk to her it only makes you look desperate, weak, needy and clingy to her; qualities that most likely look unattractive to her.

Oh and don't be there for her next time if her ex leaves for another girl cause she will most likely take him back again.

[clippers]

I know this is going to sound like but she isn't like that.
And I know her well and shees been through a lot in the last year. Shees not like that.
I'm not trying to defend her on anything, its just she told him that she feels guilty for everythig that happened between them (him cheating on her, a major death in the family)
And she told me she suspected he was using it against her when we were seeing each other or whatever.

[N0help4u]

The bottom line is she choose to go back with him and leave you in the cold.
You have to accept that and be careful if she ever does take another break.

The only way I would trust her is if she said AND meant they are through for good and NO way is she going back.
Anything short of that and you are just being manipulated like a yo-yo whether it is her intent or it just happens that way.

[liz28]

She enjoys the attention she is getting from you and know you are there waiting on the sidelines to be with her--so she uses this to her advantage. People only do what you allow them to do to you and right now your being taken for a ride.

However, it is your fault because you knew she had a boyfriend before hand and she keeps going back and forth between the two of you.

You called her a boyfriend a cheater but she isn't no better because what exactly is she doing? And what exactly are you doing? For whatever reasons she always find her way back to him and this is a fact that will never change.

For your own piece of mind stop checking up on her via Facebook, myspace, etc. You don't need her as a friend because let face the facts--you still have feelings for her and want to more than a friend to her.

When is enough is enough for you? In case you didn't know there are other girls out there who are single and available. Go find one and leave this one alone or you can stay in the cycle your in with her. If you do let me tell you it doesn't get any better.

[talaniman]

I feel for you guy, falling for a major manipulator. Her whole idea was to keep you close, as her ex was the one she wanted, but you did help her fill the emotional need, as a friend, and to have someone there for her. No, you never had a relationship, beyond friends, and not to be harsh, most of it was your own willingness to put up with her crap.

So sorry, but I hope you learn what a female will do to keep a guy around, while she has her own plans, that you won't find out about until its to late. Learn your lesson, and leave this one alone, and get a girl that IS special, not one who pretends to be.

Use spell check for us too, buddy.