[beaniebaby]

My boyfriend has an alcohol problem. If he is with me we have a wonderful relationship he doesn't really drink too much and he is wonderful. The problems start when he goes to his mum and step dads. The 3 of them will get through 6 2 litre bottles of cider between them. Although his mum says she knows he has a drink problem she is the one that keeps giving it too him. He is horrible when drunk and I have had abbusive phone calls at 2 in the morning for no reason. What I need to know is is there anything I can do to help him if he doesn't think he has a problem? And his parents think that much alcohol everyday is OK. Really need advice cause I can't carry on thanks

[zippit]

The help your asking for is the hard questions you have staring you in the face
Is this guy worth going through all this with
Is he capable of change on HIS OWN
Will I be happy with him regardless.
In order to answer these questions you have to set out a game plan for yourself.
Start with a talk,tell him exactly how you feel.
Then see if he can do things alcohol free with you and have fun and enjoy himself
If he just uses his people as a place to go let loose a little there might not be a huge issue.
But if he ignores your plees and talking with him doesn't work and he drinks everyday or way too much then you'll have to make more decisions

[N0help4u]

Are his parents calling and complaining that he is being abusive to them??

If that is the case tell them that you are unplugging the phone before you go to sleep because it isn't your problem because it isn't your doing. That they are the ones who insist on getting him drunk so THEY can deal with it!

[beaniebaby]

No there abusive to me. We do things all the time soba he more or less lives with me but he will pop round there for an hour when I'm at work and then I won't see or hear from him for 3 days. I've even had his sister call me in the middle of the night because she was angry with him because he had snogged there next door neighbour. Not only did he not remember it he carried on drinking for 2 days and didn't bother to come round to sort things out. His excuse? He was having a beer with his mum! Seeing this in black and white I no what I need to do just wish he wasn't so lovely soba

[N0help4u]

I would tell him to go back to moms and have enough beers to keep you there for good. Don't come back.

[beaniebaby]

Lol a 31 year old drinking all day with his mum is quite sad

[N0help4u]

Yep soooo sad that I wouldn't want to deal with it!

[beaniebaby]

Thanks for advice it's a no brainer really