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RJ23 · Jul 9, 2009, 02:14 AM

Well basically, me and my girlfriend has been going out for just over 7 months and last night she broke up with me because she said she just didn't love me anymore and wasn't happy (this hurt a lot, we had already planned our entire future and I was sure we were meant for each other). She did this over msn at night but during the afternoon I was at her house and we seemed fine, she didn't show anything that she wasn't happy, even telling me that she loves me. It then turns out she was thinking about doing this for around 4 days. I was crying my eyes out and I thought she would be sad and that's all, but I was talking to her on the phone and she broke into tears and this is what is confusing me. She has told me plenty of times in the last 12 hours that she doesn't love me anymore.

Anyway this is the confusing part, this morning I text her saying 'thank you for being such a good girlfriend and good luck with everything in the future' (she has aspirations to be an actress or singer), to which she replied 'I don't really know what I want at the moment, I might still want you back so just leave me a couple of days. Sorry to leave you in limbo like this.' It's really upset me and now I don't know what is going to happen, she says she doesn't want to see me in the near future but wants me to ring her to try and sort things out next week.

Any help and advice will be appreciated, I just need to know what the best course of action would be :confused:

Thanks guys

cakesbyellen · Jul 9, 2009, 05:29 AM

This is usually something that I see from the male gender. Ever hear of the back-up plan? I strongly suspect what is happening is she that she is interested in someone else and if that does not work out, you are the back up plan. Run, don't walk in the opposite direction. As painful as this is you are better off without her.

zippy579 · Jul 9, 2009, 06:20 AM

I agree with the person above. She seems as though she is interested in another person, and is interested in pursuing him, but is unable to cheat on you, therefore has broken up with, but also hinted there may still be a chance for the two of you, thus keeping you near by, just in case. Best advice is to be brave and walk away.

I wish · Jul 9, 2009, 07:56 AM

Sounds like she wants to go out an explore, but at the same time, she wants you as her safety net. If things don't work out, then she'll come crying back to you.

Time to stand up for yourself and don't let her play games with your mind. You either work things out together or go your separate ways. Don't hang around or put your life on hold hoping she will come back to you while she's off doing her own things.

carlson92 · Jul 9, 2009, 08:02 AM

Don't just sit back. This type of situation you must stand, make a move and talk to sort things out. Don't let her hang you in the air. Sit down face to face and really talk to her to get to the bottom of it. Makes sure be cool and calm.

paxe · Jul 9, 2009, 08:03 AM

WOW, this seems like the typical ex stringing along. Don't fall into that trap. Did you see when you sent her a text goodbye, she wanted her options open? She couldn't have said thank you, she just said, please wait for me "while I look for something better".

88sunflower · Jul 9, 2009, 08:12 AM

Just tell her she made her choice and be done with it. We all agree your being put on hold and its hurting you more then anything. Don't be her puppet.