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naythangibbons · Jul 5, 2009, 03:27 PM

Well last night me and my girl friend got in a huge argument. Some how she is mad and frustrated with me. Well she was drinking with her friend all night, and asked if I thought it was hot if girls made out with each other. I told her only if its not someone your close to or your girl friend. I asked her why and she told me she wanted to try it. I told her that it was cheating, and she got pissed at me saying I didn't trust her , and it was just with her best friend. But I still refused to say I would allow it.She also told me that her best firneds boyfriend thinks it hot. Its been like 12 hours and she is still very mad and frustrated with me. So is this cheating? And if so is there anyway I can make believe it is

naythangibbons · Jul 5, 2009, 03:36 PM

Me and this girl are also very in love with each other, I also 100% trust her, but I would feel betrayed if she made out with a girl, any help?

halflife1820 · Jul 5, 2009, 03:38 PM

Relationships are based on understanding. Some guys like that and some don't. You obviously don't like it and consider it cheating, so it is cheating. She should care about your feelings and understand you think its cheating and its wrong. It should not matter what another guy thinks or doesn't think, your relationship is between you and your girlfriend and that's it. Its perfectly normal for you to think this way and she is in the wrong for reacting that way. I suggest giving her time to herself so that she can cool down and calmly explain yourself without getting mad, if she loves you or at least cares about you she will understand if she doesn't maybe she's not for a mature relationship and it may be time to move on. So just talk to her CALMLY and don't accuse her of anything or shell get mad all over again. Hope this helps

naythangibbons · Jul 5, 2009, 03:41 PM

Thanks this did help, I am going to be seeing her tomorrow. She told me that she will be better when she sees me and I should just forget about what happened. But they she told me she wants to be less open because she doesn't want to cause another fight. Is this also really bad :S

halflife1820 · Jul 5, 2009, 04:16 PM

When you talk to her just emphasize that it is extremely important for in any relaitonship to be open with one another. One problem that I have faced is that its how you respond when someone opens up to you, you may not like what they have to say but it is how they feel. For instance (and I'm not sure if this is what happened) when she told you she wanted to kiss another girl, if you reacted with anger than its almost a guarantee that that person will also become angry and that will start a fight. Like I stressed before you have to be CALM, as humans we fed of other peoples energy (if your around happy people you will be happy, your around angry people you willl be angry)Its hard to work on but its well worth it. So when you do talk to her be understanding and calm and explain to her that you would like her to be open with you about things and you have to promise her that you will be understanding and not become angry.

chuff · Jul 5, 2009, 06:10 PM

It's cheating but the fact that you are fighting over this means you two don't see the relationship the same way.

I wish · Jul 5, 2009, 06:23 PM

Seems like you guys have a very weak communication system and you have a different definition of cheating.

You got to talk this out with her. Explain to each other why you view a certain action as cheating and why another action isn't.