[daydays mom]

My husband is a min. man. And I love him but I hate having sex with him. I don't want to be mean, but I haven't had sex with him for a long time now I just don't want to waist my time. Ive never had a orgasm that I know of. I've had more partners then he but I am tired of not enjoying myself. What can I do to make it work so I can be happy to. I don't masterbate, not into that kind of thing!

[shazamataz]

Have you talked to him about it?
You don't have to be direct if the situation is embarrassing for him/you.

Does he have a problem with ejaculating too early or with just wanting fast sex?
If it is ejaculating early then it wouldn't hurt to visit a doctor to explore some options.
If he simply wants fast sex then suggest to him bedroom fantasies or try out some roleplaying. You could even watch pornography together an re-enact some scenes.

[smoothy]

The longer a guy goes between having sex the faster he gets off... that makes a bad problem worse. If he was getting off every day is he still a minute man? If he was going days or particularly weeks then I'm not surprised. It matters which. If it was the former he has an issue that needs to be worked on... if it's the latter it might self correct, but that's no excuse for him not finishing you off orally.

[450donn]

First get him to a doctor to be sure there is no physical problems. Second you need to sit down and have a real heart to heart talk about sex. Many men do not understand how to please a woman. Many women do not know how to talk to a man about what pleases them. You probably married this guy knowing his problem and choose to ignore it when you were in love with him. Now it bothers you to death and you refuse to address the issue? Why is that?

[Gemini54]

Why don't you talk to him?

I know it's really difficult, but it must be frustrating for him as well. There are lots of techniques that can be used to help guys to last longer, and if you talk about it, and get some help, it will potentially bring you closer together.

You can also work on the fact that you haven't had an orgasm and focus on doing things that you like.

All of this involves communication - good sex often doesn't come naturally, it has to be a process of negotiation and experimentation.

If you do love him, then isn't it worth making an effort to work it out?