[amathaa]

Hello to all.
I really need to vent and show my feelings about my sister.

You may think I sound like a little jealous bratty sister, but I am telling the bitter and honest truth and I feel left out. The relationship between my older sister and my parents is completely unfair compared to the relationship with me and my parents.

My sister gets whatever she wants, gets away with plenty, and doesn't have to do anything! For example, for her sixteenth birthday, she got a VERY expensive Louis Vuitton purse. That dang thing cost over a thousand dollars. My brother never got anything so expensive in his life, and I can assure you that neither have I. My brother is 22, so he has already gone past the days of "getting a car" and the moments in life where he should have been spoiled. I, on the other hand, have not gone through these moments because I am only 15 now. Before you object and say that I shouldn't be getting expensive things at this age anyway, I completely agree. But, as I said, my sister did! It is not fair to my brother or me for her to be spoiled. You will love this: my eighteen year old sister drives a new BMW, whereas my brother is forced to drive a pre-owned car that has seen way better days. She is literally showered with gifts; she owns Channel sunglasses, wears Lacoste polos, and has her own credit card. It is truly ridiculous. She is spoiled rotten and I am so sick of it!

As I said earlier, my sister does NOTHING. Since the summer has started, all she has done is lay outside tanning, gone to parties with friends, or gone out spending my parents money on more stupid clothes! She refuses to get a summer job and then lays around doing one of the things I've mentioned or just sits watching TV and "One Tree Hill" all flipping day long! I, on the other hand, have already volunteered a week of my time to helping little kids learn about God at a bible camp, worked at my summer job, and did some bonding with my friends!

I am so sick of her "do nothing" attitude. I want her to work hard, get off her butt, and learn how to actually SAVE money, instead of buying clothes everyday of her life! I hate to say it, but I am so disappointed in her.

I really need some advice on how to handle her. When I try to explain to her that she can't go living like this for the rest of her life, she just doesn't get it. I know that this is not my job to fix her up, being as I am the sibling, not the parent, but I can't stand one more minute of her stuck-up attitude. Please help with any advice you can give.

[ZoeMarie]

I would be frustrated if I were you too, but look at it this way, you're bettering yourself, getting out there in the community and making a difference. It sounds like you're going to get farther in life because you realize that having things handed to you doesn't teach you responsibility. Hang in there. Your hard work will pay off in the end. If you haven't talked to your parents about this already it wouldn't hurt for them to hear how you feel. Whether they do anything about it, you'll probably feel better.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

I agree with Zoe. Yes, it's unfair. But you know what? I grew up below poverty level, got emancipated at 15, have worked everyday since and now I have a great job, great boyfriend, buying a new car next week, and I love my life. My point is: If you see the value in the little stuff and learn to be your own person you get much farther in life than if everything is handed to you.

[jenniepepsi]

I'm sorry your going through this. My sister and brother both were treated this way while I was left with the 'left overs' and to 'fend for myself'

But I agree with zoe and chi. You will be better for it when you are an adult. You will be better able to apreciate the things you DO have and you will be a MILLION times more PROUD of the things you WORK for than your sister could EVER be proud of what was handed to her...

Good luck hon *hugs*

Perhaps you can confide in a school counselor about how you are feeling?