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brouth · Jun 21, 2009, 03:35 PM

My husband has 2 adult children living at home, one is 22 and the other is 21. I have no problem with them living at home, but I do have a problem with them not lifing a finger to help out with household chores and pitching in for household bills.
Both of the adult children work full time. My husband and I do not see eye to eye on this matter and it leaves me very frustrated.
I need advice on what should be expected out of the children. They both come and go as they please, buy what they want and expect us to still cook all their meals, clean the house and pay all the bills.

Please help!

Thanks

Fr_Chuck · Jun 21, 2009, 04:13 PM

You should expect out of them what ever the two of your demand of them. They only do as they were raised.

So if your husband does not care and if he lets them do what they want, that is all they will do.

So you have to deal with your husband first before you can expect anything of them.

Personally in my household, after 18 and if not going to school full time, they would be paying rent or moving out.

Wondergirl · Jun 21, 2009, 04:37 PM

They may be adults, but are vital members of the household. Just as you and your husband contribute to everyone's well-being, so should they. I totally agree with FrChuck. Start with your husband.

Mazdadude07 · Jun 23, 2009, 11:34 AM

I moved out right away when I was 18, I couldn't wait! But my younger sister who is coming up on 20, has no interest what soever to move out, because our mom spoils her like she's still a little kid, and hasn't any respect for anything, but my 18 yr sister cannot wait to move out on her own! Yet is spoiled but at least wants to move out.

If their going to college, sure you know, A child should understand, there will always be a home here when you need it, usually should talk to them about that when comes time that they move out, it was 9 years for me when I finally moved back home due to separation from the ex-fiance, it was little weird but nice at same time.

ZoeMarie · Jun 23, 2009, 11:38 AM

This is no way to teach the kids responsibility. I didn't move out as soon as I turned 18 either, but I was buying everything that I used, food, clothes, gas, my car, insurance plus paying rent. I got to say, it sucked doing everything for myself but it sure taught me HOW to take care of myself.