[sarah_hector]

My boyfriend and I been dating since November 1st and doing that time I got pregnant. When I was getting bigger; he seem like he's not interested in having sex with me. He keeps saying it's because I'm pregnant and that he wants to wait after until I have the baby to have more sex. We only have sex whenever he wants to... Why's that? :(

[sarah_hector]

Can someone please give me an opition on what you thinks that might be going on in his mind. Please...

[Fr_Chuck]

First Sarah people here are not paid, they come here after work, on their spare time. So you have to wait more than "one minute" to get an answer. It can take several days and in some cases will be getting answers over the next few weeks.

Many men don't want to have sex with women who are pregnant, it is just a mental thing.

Others are upset more than they say over the pregnancy, not really wanting a baby

And others have trouble over the change in phsycial appearance

[Justwantfair]

He is not alone, as a man uncomfortable having sex with his partner while pregnant.

Try initiating sex with him more often. Don't make it about talking about sex.

There are still other options for sexual behaviors if you are interested in getting him interested in sex again. Talk to him about his concerns with having sex while you are pregnant. Open communication could help to rectify the problem as well.

[nikosmom]

Some men are turned on by pregnant women; some are not. It's a matter of personal preference. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with you, it just means he may not be comfortable with it.

Have you talked to him about it? Maybe there's more going on mentally for him. Maybe he's afraid of hurting you or worried he could hurt the baby. He may think you're not up for it.

Talk to him about it. You two should be able to communicate; after all you're having a baby together.

[sweet1028]

Sometimes men don't like to tell how they feel about certain things. Myself, sex was wonderful while I was pregnant I was actually more comfortable which made it better for both of us. He could be afraid of hurting the baby and doesn't want to be the blame if something goes wrong. Talk about it and see how he feels then maybe he will want to have sex again even though you are still pregnant.

[Catsmine]

As a guy, what the other (wonderful) women have said about being afraid of hurting you/the baby/the pregnancy process is spot on. Most guys, including some physicians, are afraid to "let go" for fear of putting too much weight on your abdomen, your cervix, or the placental sack. If your water breaks early we're scared it will kill you or the baby.

Maybe I'm betraying some great male conspiracy but they forgot to swear me in. We are taught from the time we are weaned that pregnant women are fragile, disabled, subject to horrible things from the slightest injury. The truth doesn't matter, we are well indoctrinated in western society.

It's up to you to help him overcome his conditioning. Start something. Get on top. Try doggie. Oral until he can't think about anything. Whatever works, but it has to be YOUR idea right now.

[bronzebabe]

I agree with what Catsmine says. Guys are often afraid that they will hurt the baby or the mom. Give him time. You can try and talk to him about these fears and maybe he will want to have sex more. If not, you will have to wait till you have the baby.