[charlene flynn]

Heavily edited for chat speak, grammar and spelling, this time.......................!!!


Well, I have been going out with my boyfriend for the past 6 months. We have been through loads, so much its unreal. At the beginning of the relationship I cheated on him, but he gave me another chance, 2 weeks after that, I fell pregnant but didn't continue the pregnancy. The dates worked out that it was his. Things were going great with us from then, we both pulled through it together. Now he's acting weird, saying that he doesn't know what he wants anymore. He never rings me either when he says he will. I am his most serious girlfriend. He's 20, and I'm the only girls that ever met his family. What do I do to win him back?

[kctiger]

You won't "win" him back... that is not how life works. I fear that some people skipped your question because it is fairly hard to understand as it is mostly chat speak.

You two had an extremely poor foundation to start your relationship with, and to me, it looks as if that foundation has finally crumbled. Move on, keep your legs shut, and get your own life together. Good luck!

[1rose23456]

I had the same problem as you. I cheated on my boyfriend at the beginning .:(he saw me with some one else and broke up me. I broke up with the guy he saw me with and tried apologizing.:confused: it didn't work then I asked why he wouldn't go out with me again and he said something completely different from me cheating on him. :mad: he's the one one with a problem not you. Just don't let him get with another girl or your attention from him will be over.
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[talaniman]

I hope you realize that it takes time to get over being lied to, and cheated on, and though he may have given you another chance, he may be struggling with totally forgiving you. He may even be questioning your time line of your pregnancy.

Whatever his reasons, I think you need to give him space to reach his own conclusions, and decide for himself what he wants to do.

I hope you learned something from your behavior, and make better choices for yourself in the future. We know how old he is, but how old are you?

[Triysle]

i had the same problem as you. i cheated on my bf at the begining .:(he saw me with some one else and broke up me. i broke up with the guy he saw me with and tryed apologizing.:confused: it didnt work then i asked y he wouldnt go out with me again and he said something completly different from me cheating on him. :mad: hes the one one with a problem not you. just dont let him get with another girl or your attention from him will be over.
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I disagree, but I won't give you a reddie for it because it's not my style ;)

She shouldn't interfere with the guy's life at all anymore. It's not about whether he has a problem, because she has no control over that particular issue. What she should be doing is moving on with her own life, realizing her mistakes and learning from them.

Frankly, he had every right to stay out of a relationship with her. He doesn't have a "problem;" he has enough self-respect to realize that he deserves someone who will stay faithful to him, if that's what he wants.

~ Tee

[N0help4u]

I have to agree he doesn't have a problem. She cheated on him where is it his problem?
I have to also agree that she can't make him come back to her.
She has to get on with her life without him and maybe one day he will see she has changed and want to give it another chance but that is pretty unlikely.

[liz28]

Maybe he didn't get past the cheating and abortion.

You have to learn that when you care for someone you can't treat them like crap and expect for them to take it. Respect goes a long way and you didn't have any if you cheated.

I guarantee he told his close friends or family what you did and most likely he got an ear full from them.

It doesn't matter if you met his family or this his first serious relationship. He is only 20 and will have more. Hopefully he will meet someone better that won't cheat on.

You have love and respect yourself before you can love and respect someone else.

I know you might regret what you did but in life there is no backspace. If you had issues with him you should have been woman enough to tell him so the two of you should have tackle it together.

Leave him alone because right now he doesn't want to bother by you. Btw, you can't win someone back that doesn't want to be won back.

Hopefully you learned something from this. Also, watch out for karma because it will get you when you least expect it.

[ajGambino]

Sounds like the relationship was unstable from the beginning. As far as working things out with him, there's no such thing as winning when it comes to relationships.

You cheated on him, the trust is broken and it will take a while before he can start trusting you again. For now, you both need to be alone. I don't think forcing each other to work things out will benefit you guys in any way.

Lesson learned, trust is the most important thing in a relationship, and if you don't have that, you don't have a relationship, period.