Should I go out with her?

theresbeautyinu · Jun 11, 2009, 06:44 PM

Mmk... I'm a 13 year old girl... and I keep on getting my feelings for people mixed up... I'm bisexual... and this girl really likes me... and I went out with her for about a month in a half, then I got my best friend back... and I started to like her... then I broke up with my girlfriend because my best friend said she liked me and then a couple days ago she said she just said that because she felt bad about me liking her... then I started to want my ex back... but I'm not sure if those feelings are going to change again... I really love her.. but my feelings keep changing and I want to continue loving her but I don't want to hurt her again if my feelings do change. Should I go back out with her or not?

Justwantfair · Jun 11, 2009, 07:14 PM

13, you are still developing... you should be focusing on schoolwork, activities and playing.

How about worrying about neither as your feelings are going to continue to change because you are growing up, not grown up.

Wondergirl · Jun 11, 2009, 07:18 PM

Your sexuality is still settling down. Meanwhile, get good grades in school and become a friend to both boys and girls. Become the nicest person possible.

theresbeautyinu · Jun 11, 2009, 07:25 PM

Schools over for the summer... and I'm tired of feeling alone... I want to feel her hand in mine again... I want to hear her voice say she loves me... I don't want to be alone.

Wondergirl · Jun 11, 2009, 07:26 PM

Originally Posted by theresbeautyinu

schools over for the summer... and im tired of feeling alone... i want to feel her hand in mine again... i wanna hear her voice say she loves me... i dont want to be alone.

Good grief! Scrub the bathroom floor and wash out the tub and bake brownies.

Justwantfair · Jun 11, 2009, 07:26 PM

Well then you Definitely need to find other focuses rather than relationships.

You have to love you, before you can love someone else. If you are afraid/tired of feeling alone than you don't love yourself and you need to be alone to know your own great qualities.

theresbeautyinu · Jun 11, 2009, 07:32 PM

I know my good qualities... I've been alone for 13 years... and I feel so empty... like there's a part of me missing... and if I'm alone,. how do I find that missing part?

Justwantfair · Jun 11, 2009, 07:34 PM

You can't fill a void with another person. You have to feel complete on your own.

Ask your parents, it sounds like you might want to think about counseling. Discuss your feelings with your parents.

theresbeautyinu · Jun 11, 2009, 07:36 PM

I've tried before... they think I do it for attention... and no matter who I talk to... it only gets worse... more frustrating

Freddie17 · Jun 15, 2009, 09:51 PM

Honestly? I think it sounds like you are in NEED of attention. (Note, I'm not saying you're an attention-seeker in a bad way, OK?) You need to find other interests. This has nothing to do with sexuality, but more to do with how it appears you're approaching relationships.

503person · Jun 15, 2009, 09:59 PM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Good grief! Scrub the bathroom floor and wash out the tub and bake brownies.

I agree. You need something to focus on... relationshis aren't the be all end all of life. You have to learn how to complete yourself, make yourself happy, me comfortable alone with yourself

macman11393 · Jun 17, 2009, 09:55 AM

So far I agree 100% with everyone's saying but to help you out a little more I'm only 16 and telling from experience- I would not go out with her she probably wouldn't take you back and also if you think you might break up again its not worth going out with her again because it will only make it worse and make her more angry at you. You you can and probably and should pick up a hobby but I know what you mean about loneliness I felt it until I got a couple best friends and we started hanging out and paintballing and go swimming in my aunts pool so you can start a different relationship with your guy friends by just hanging out with them

babygalrachii · Jun 17, 2009, 10:32 AM

Well unlike these other people I think if you like her then date her and your best friend if she told you she liked you and didn't really that's not really friend like so I think you should get back with your ex but its up to you

N0help4u · Jun 17, 2009, 11:32 AM

I agree with the others. Your emotions are all over the place.
You need to focus. Enjoy all your friends as friends.
If you jump around you will only end up alienating them as friends as well as anything more serious.

88sunflower · Jun 17, 2009, 11:38 AM

Originally Posted by theresbeautyinu

schools over for the summer... and im tired of feeling alone... i want to feel her hand in mine again... i wanna hear her voice say she loves me... i dont want to be alone.

This hardly sounds 13 to me! Wow

88sunflower · Jun 17, 2009, 11:42 AM

If your feeling lonely then maybe you need to find some hobbies. Or just get used to the range of emotions your going to feel growing up. Teenage years are hard and your emotions will be all over the board. Your to young to be worried about something like this. I hated hearing I was to young, but now that I am 36, I understand it completely.

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