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borat007 · Jun 16, 2009, 09:58 PM

First of all, I am sorry for my english... I'm not a native speaker... I'm 26 and my girlfriend is 23. If I could describe how I feel about her as short as possible, it would be :"Someone I want to spend the rest of my life with". We have been together for two and a half years and we have plans to get married when we finish our education, find better jobs, etc. My problem is that she has to go to USA and spend a year there because of a student exchange program. Don't get me wrong, I want her to go because it's a great opportunity for her, but just the thought that I'm not going to be with her for so long is basically killing me. Here is the trick question. I am her first sexual partner not because she couldn't find anyone else, but because I was the only one she could trust enough, and I have a lot more sexual experience. Believe me, she was raised that way. And I try really hard to be the best lover she will ever have, it's very important to me And I know that I am. I don't think she could cheat on me, she never did, but what IF she starts to wonder what it's like with another guy? And I think that college is the perfect place for her to find out... So fr away where no one knows you. Will the distance tear us apart? Any similar experiences?

kctiger · Jun 17, 2009, 05:55 AM

Love can either encourage you to conquer your problems and fears together, or it will tear you apart. Who knows what will happen? It sounds cliché, but if it is meant to be, it is meant to be. I remember when my ex went to Spain for a couple of months... God that sucked! She was the true girlfriend I knew though, never did anything to break my trust.

Where in the U.S. is she going? Just relax. If she is going to "find out what it is like without you" nothing you do will change that, but don't worry about it happening nor expect it to. Enjoy the time you have together for now, and be there for her when she is lonely over in America. It will be a difficult transition for her, this country is unlike anywhere else in the world.

You are a good boyfriend, so remain one and let the rest take care of itself.

mudweiser · Jun 17, 2009, 08:57 AM

I agree with KC... in fact I think KC covered it all.

The only I have to say is to calm down; if she's a good girlfriend now and hasn't done anything for you to lose her trust, then you really have nothing to worry about. A year may seem long but it actually goes by pretty quickly. You can always; call, email, write letters, etc.

NOTE: Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Sarah

Romefalls19 · Jun 17, 2009, 09:01 AM

Trust it goes a long way, even longer than the distance of the ocean that will be between you two.

talaniman · Jun 17, 2009, 09:32 AM

Don't let fear and insecurity let your mind play tricks on you.

Communicate and agree on a strategy together to deal with the distance and time.

http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-ha...nship/?cnn=yes

Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship

Hope these sites help, and don't hesitate to ask any questions you have.

DoulaLC · Jun 17, 2009, 10:02 AM

Would there be anyway you could visit her while she is in the US? Would she go home for any holiday? That might help you feel more comfortable. There are plenty of ways to stay in contact on a regular basis.

It sounds like she would not be the type to cheat or wonder about what someone else is like. Her morals won't change with her being away.

Personal experience: my husband and I had a long distance relationship for a year and a half.