[zeig]

I love my girlfriend to tears, but I feel, as does my girfriend, that my mom doesn't like her all that much, and that she lieks one of my exs. My mom has even said "oh (ex. girlfriend) is so nice and pretty i see why he liked her" to my girlfriend. And I can't see her a few days in a row because its "obsesive" but I can see one single friend a week in a row and its fine.

Please help, I don't know what to do, my girlfriend comes to me about it upset and I don't know what to say or do and my mom doesn't really care if she lieks her or not. Do I approach this or not or what? Please help thank you.

[I wish]

I had the same problem with one of my exes. The first two years of our relationship was horrible. My dad didn't even want her in our house. Then on the third year, I told my mom how serious we were and then the idea started sinking in.

Eventually me and my girlfriend broke up cause things didn't work out between us, but at least by then my mom was feeling better about the relationship.

My point is, give it time. You can't expect your mom to change her mind overnight. Give her time to let the idea sink in. In the meantime, just work on your relationship with your girlfriend. The stronger you are together, the less chance your mom can get between the two of you.

[Gemini54]

One option would be to not spend time with your GF when your mum is around. Try to arrange it so that they don't get to see each other so much.

Also, tell your GF not to take it personally, it's your mother's issue and she doesn't need to take it on.

I wouldn't make an issue of it with your mum either - not at this stage anyway, just ignore the comments and she might eventually stop when she doesn't get a reaction.

As I Wish said - these things can take time. Don't give it any more energy than you need to.

[N0help4u]

Tell your girlfriend that your moms choices and your choices are two different things so don't take it to heart.

Also many moms are like that. They compare their kids choices with who they use to go out with all the time even when they have been married awhile.
You both need to take what your mom says with a grain of salt and realize moms will be moms and like their opinion heard.

[talaniman]

I know how you feel, and though it sucks and seems unfair, that's her responsibility to do what she thinks is best, no matter who likes it.

Work within her rules until she gives you more freedom with your g/f, or gets used to the idea of your choice being different from hers.